And this morning, I’m back on the set, shooting another episode of a wonderful TV show I worked on last week + am feeling so grateful to do what I love, while also inspiring other actors along the way.
I want you to know that just 4 weeks ago, after having some great auditions and not really booking anything, I was feeling pretty down about how 2018 was going.
I wanted to feel better, but there were days, where I just couldn’t get out of my own funk + lift myself up. Can you relate?
Well, it got me thinking….
It seems we search for ways to feel good, and often run in fear of feeling anything less than what we deem as “positive emotions.”
But what if feeling all emotions were positive? What if every emotion you feel throughout your day was here to awaken you? And what if you could start loving it all?
We often spend our time judging, criticizing + labeling ourselves + our emotions + then adding to the story of what it all means. What if, throughout your day, whatever thought or emotion was getting your attention, you could simply(more…)
When there are slow patches in your career, do you go down the dark rabbit hole of worry + self-doubt?
Do you start obsessing about how you did on your last audition or wondering if you’ll ever get another one?
I know. I’ve been there.
But, when you shift your focus from what is not working to what’s going right in your life, things will begin to shift in your favor.
This year started off kinda quiet for me (well, except all of my free trainings for actors!), and it would have been easy for me to start ranting + raving….
“What are my reps doing?” “Where are my auditions?” “What am I missing out on?”
But asking myself those questions only produces answers (and feelings) rooted in lack and fear.
So instead, I focused all of my energy on helping other actors (like you) succeed, while getting into a mental head-space of radical appreciation for what was working in my life.
Why would this matter?
Within the next week, I ended up getting 3 amazing auditions, including a request to read for a different role on a project I had already been in for late last year.
(Something I didn’t even know would come back around, and could have easily spent a lot of wasted time examining what I might have not done “right” at that initial audition.)
And then, a wonderful booking came in (which I can’t give details about yet) and an invitation to attend a red carpet Oscar party.
And all from shifting my focus + how it made me feel when nothing was going on. That’s it.
Sounds simple, right? It Is, but many actors choose to take the struggling route of complaining + blaming + then berating themselves. Then they spend their days busying themselves with “doing more” from this space of lack.
What they don’t realize, is that it’s hamster wheel that just produces more of the same.
So, what if, no matter how things look right now, you told yourself this:
Instead of spending anytime criticizing or berating myself today,
I marvel at all I’ve done + who I’ve become along the way.
13 years ago I was on the edge of a devastating breakup and day’s like Valentine’s Day would spark a sadness within me that would turn the rest of February into my least favorite month.
Especially since I had a timeline of how my life was going to go + clearly I was “off schedule,” since I was going to be married with kids by age 33.
When we feel lost in the woods and we can’t seem to find our way, it’s easy to think thinks will never change.
Time definitely gives you perspective, and as I look back now, this is what I wish I knew….
Love wherever you are in your journey and know that it is all leading you to the light.
Because ultimately, life had even better plans for me.
And interestingly enough, it was after spending a year where I focused on giving myself everything I thought I needed a relationship to give to me, that an old friend (who I did a film with 10 years prior) came along and changed my life.
Today, I’m so thankful to be standing here as the wife of this wonderful man and the mother of these 2 amazing boys, on the edge of the life I was meant to have.
So, whether you have a family or you just got over a devastating breakup, whether you have auditions today or haven’t booked a job in months, whether you have 2 credits on your resume or 20, I hope you find a way to love + appreciate where you are on your journey today.
And in those dark times where you feel lost, try giving yourself what you are wishing a booking or a relationship would come along and give you.
How do you do that?
HERE ARE 3 STEPS TO TAKE WHEN YOU FEEL LOST:
1) DEFINE THE FEELING
Ask this question: “What is the feeling I want to experience from having _________? “ (fill in what you think is missing (a booking, a boyfriend, a perfect body etc)
This helps you define what it is you’re searching for: love, validation, recognition, appreciation, acceptance etc.
2) DECLARE WHAT YOU WILL DO TO CREATE THIS FEELING
Instead of needing a thing or a person or a circumstance to change the way you feel, you’ll take your power back by finding a way to give yourself this feeling now.
Ask this question: “What will I do today to give myself the love, validation, recognition, appreciation or acceptance I am searching for?”
3) COMMIT TO TAKING ACTION
Now, commit to doing whatever you need to create that feeling, whether it’s an act of self-care, going to a great workout class, or listening to a guided meditation, do something to help you create the feeling you are after.
Imagine showing up at your next audition (or your next date) already feeling loved, validated, recognized, appreciated + accepted just as you are. You will light up in a whole different way.
Remember, that no matter where you are in the woods, know it is all leading you to the light.
The secret is knowing that what you’re searching for is already within you.
Leave a comment below + let me know what feeling you are after + what you are going to do today to create this feeling within you?
Here’s to a week of tuning into the light.
Love + Gratitude,
P.S. Want to take the guesswork out of meditation + visualization?
I want to express a heartfelt THANK YOU for coming along with me in January as I shared my free videos, my free online masterclass, and all the news about my Success Breakthrough Workshop.
Whether you were moved by what I shared in the free trainings or decided to dive deeper with me in the course, I am grateful for you.
I am back to my ONE Morning Mindset email per week + today, I want to share a simple message that when you stop + take it in, will profoundly shift how you feel.
As actors + creative people, I know this to be true for many of us….
It’s so easy to look ahead + wish we were further along.
It’s so easy to let that job that you didn’t book, even though you rocked the audition, get you down.
It’s so easy to scroll through Instagram + see everyone’s best version of their life + feel like you’re missing out on something.
It’s so easy to let negative thoughts run your day + effect how you treat others.
It’s so easy to find fault within ourselves + those we love the most.
But today, I want you to pause. Today, I want you to take a moment and do this….. Yes, I want you to express radical appreciation for all you have done + who you have become.
Because when you look back and marvel at yourself + your life, moving forward becomes easier.
Because when you see each rejection as just part of the path to something even better, not getting the job becomes no big deal.
Because when you get excited for another’s success, you are that much closer to aligning with your own.
Because when you choose a more positive thought, you light up in a different way.
Because when you look for things to appreciate in yourself + others, more things like it reveal themselves.
So, pause. Breathe. Put the phone down. And give thanks for your journey so far. No really. Do it right now.
“Today, I express radical appreciation for all I have done + who I have become.”
You have no idea how close you are to so many wonderful experiences.
Radical appreciation will not only speed up the process, but it will also make getting to where you want to go way more fun.
Here’s to a week of expressing radical appreciation.
Leave a comment below + let me know what you’re appreciating in your life today!
I am appreciating you!
Love + Gratitude,
P.S. Want to take the guesswork out of meditation + visualization?
I’m excited to reveal “How To Radically Transform Your Acting Career.”
But first 3 quick announcements, as the past 3 weeks have been mind-blowing to watch so many actors jump start their breakthrough year + shed all kinds of limitations inside my “Virtual Party” of free online trainings. Amazing!
I’m going to keep it simple today, as I’ve spent the last 3 weeks watching brave + committed actors dive inward + take an honest look at what’s been stopping them from creating more success + happiness in their acting careers + their personal lives.
Here’s what I know to be true: To radically transform your career, you must first radically transform your inner game.
Yes, it all begins, by looking within.
Why? Well, real transformation can’t happen without conscious awareness…
Yes. When I acknowledge + accept, I can transform.
For most actors, it’s way easier to spend the day/month/year blaming their agents, weight, looks, age, lack of connections or number of auditions for their lack of results,
But what hundreds of actors uncovered in my Free Video Series, was that the actual act of blaming was the thing that was not only keeping them in victim mode, but was also the very thing that was keeping them stuck.
Once you realize that the #1 factor that determines your success, (more…)
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