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How To Expand Your Happiness (10 Acts Of Mindfulness)

We are all on the quest for happiness.

In fact everything you want, is because you think you will be happier when you have it.
Whether it is a role, a relationship, a Range Rover, or a raving review of your work.
Deepak Chopra states,

”The purpose of life IS the expansion of happiness.
Happiness is the goal of every other goal.”

And yet, throughout your day, do you ever notice how easy it is to pick things apart (including yourself), notice what’s not working, what you haven’t done yet + fixate on complaining about the big + even the little things?

I know I have.

So if our quest is to expand our happiness, why do we spend so much time feeling unhappy?

To understand ourselves, we have to become consciously aware of our thoughts, words, + habits. Then, we must learn how to shift them.

You might not even be aware that complaining has become your default mode of operation.

So what can you do to shift from finding fault to expanding your happiness?

The first step is to become more mindful.

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The act of mindfulness will help train your subconscious mind to perceive + appreciate more of the amazing blessings, beauty + bounty that are in your life on a daily basis.

Here are 10 acts of mindfulness to get you started…. (more…)

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A Simple Method For Getting Unstuck

You might not want to hear it, but complaining is a chronic habit that ultimately keeps you stuck.

Have you ever tried to go through your entire day + not make one complaint? It’s not easy, right?

You might not even be aware of how often you complain, because it’s become so habitual. For many of us, complaining has become our standard mode of operation.

We complain the audition is taking too long.
We complain about the traffic.
We complain about the line at the grocery store.

Then we get together with our friends and when they start to complain, we chime in easily + add to it, until everyone is bonding over a big-warm-complaint-bonfire. (And I can’t say I haven’t been there. I have.)

So, here’s one simple way to get unstuck.

Become mindful of how often you complain + stop yourself in your tracks.

In fact, this is my SPECIAL INVITATION to have you join me in making November a complaint free month.

How do you do it?
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Here are 4 steps to making November COMPLAINT FREE. (more…)

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How To Collect The “No’s” + Turn Them Into “Yes.” (My personal story of 10 agents turning me down.)

Have you been facing tons of rejection lately? Have you allowed it to devastate you? You’re not alone.

As actors, collecting the “no’s” should be part of our job description, and yet no one really teaches us how to do that without getting defeated.

Whether it’s not booking the job, not getting the callback or not getting signed by an agent, all of the rejection can chip away at your confidence.

It’s your ability to not allow any of these experiences to turn into a negative belief about yourself that really is the key.
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That really is it. It’s how you handle all the rejection, without letting it devastate you, define you or defeat you that will ultimately determine your success.

So don’t take one experience of rejection and allow it to define who you are + what will or won’t happen in your career.

Your thoughts become beliefs, and you get to (more…)

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The Daily Practice That Will Make You More Productive

If looping thoughts tend to run your day, and you often feel overwhelmed or overworked, you’re not alone.

I just got back from a family vacation + found myself feeling this way the very next day!

When resistance shows up like this, keep in mind that it’s really just your ego trying to run the show, figure it all out ahead of time and keep you mentally busy.

So what’s a multi-tasking actor to do?

It’s at moments like this, when getting still will actually help you become more productive.

It almost seems illogical to stop what you’re doing, especially if your to-do-list is a mile long (like mine often is).

But, I’ve been amazed at the solutions, creativity + miracles that begin to appear when you take a break, quiet the mind + let go of how you think it all should go.

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Yes, believe it or not, as you make finding stillness a daily practice: Solutions will appear. Creativity will soar. Miracles will happen.

As you find stillness, you’ll begin to feel the layers of physical, mental and emotional resistance peel away + dissolve.

Here are some helpful mindset mantras to get you started…. (more…)

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How to Interrupt Your Negative Patterns + Find Happiness

Most of us identify ourselves and who we are through our daily thoughts.

Yet, studies show that these daily thoughts are 80% negative and 95% repetitive.

So, ultimately, we are repeating negative thoughts daily, unless we become consciously aware and interrupt the pattern…

…unless we find stillness, let go and quiet the mind.

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But the ego doesn’t want you to get still, to trust or to let go.
(Get still, trust + let go anyway.)

The ego wants to control. And it does so by cleverly convincing you that you are (more…)

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How To Restore Your Sanity + Reignite Your Creativity

I’m keeping it short and sweet today, as I’m off on another trip with my family.

My mantra lately has been: I’ll never regret that I went on too many vacations (especially while my young boys still want to hang out with me).

But as we approach the last 3 months of the year (where did the time go?!), I hope you’ll schedule in some quiet time for yourself.

I used to feel guilty about doing “nothing,” much less taking more than one vacation a year! (I had tons of actor-FOMO)

I used to go-go-go 24/7, often feeling overwhelmed by all I was doing and even resentful of those who were taking a break. (I’m sure I was just jealous that they knew how to!)

But now I’ve learned that, when you can find stillness, you ignite the fuel to recharge your batteries, restore your sanity, and even reignite your creativity.

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So I’m here to encourage you to sleep in, go for a walk, grab some tea or a cozy blanket and write in a journal, read a good book or listen to a guided meditation.

Eckhart Tolle says, “You are never more essentially yourself than when you are still.”

Do whatever you need to do to t (more…)

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9 Words To Help You Turn Rejection Into Opportunity

Those days where you do your best work and don’t book the job (or even get a callback) can be frustrating for many actors.

When this happen over and over again, it can be debilitating.  Self-doubt sets in.  You walk in to your next audition and (often unconsciously) try harder, and the rejection cycle continues.

But it is in those challenging moments, where your ego tries to convince you that you are somehow not enough or that you need to change or fix something about your appearance, instead I invite you to dig deeper and respond to it all with love.

Here are 9 words to help you turn rejection into opportunity.

Take a deep breath in today and know that….

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As you access this unconditionally loving space within your heart, you activate brand-new (more…)

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Post-Emmy Funk? 11 Mindset Mantras To Improve Your Mood

If you watched the Emmys on Sunday night, and it left you feeling inspired + hopeful for the possibilities ahead for you, that’s awesome.

But if you turned off the TV and went to bed wondering…

  • Will it ever happen for me?
  • What do I do to get to where I want to go?
  • How will I ever achieve my biggest acting dreams?

Here’s what you need to know today:

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The only way to get to where you want to go, is to first make peace with where you are. 

So, if you woke up today feeling blue about your career, guess what? You simply added meaning to an event.

You watched an awards show (an event) and made the fact that you aren’t there indicate that you have somehow failed as an actor (meaning you added).  And now you feel horrible.  (current outcome)

Here’s what that math would look like on a chalk board: (more…)

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5 Ways To Bring Your Life Back Into Balance This Week

It’s so easy to look around the chaos in our world and our weather, and respond with fear, worry or anger.

It’s also easy to take these stressful feelings and redirect them (often unconsciously) towards your loved ones or even towards yourself.

But, the more chaos that surfaces in the world (or in your own life), the more important it becomes to find a still point in your heart.

When you clear space in your mind + your heart, and become a witness to your pain or problems, without engaging in your own suffering, you create new neural pathways to the solution.

It’s the stillness that ultimately sets you free + brings your life back into balance.

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When you get still in your heart + mind, every disruption can lead you to an even bigger awakening.

So, what if instead of believing all the negative noise in your head, you (more…)

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Do What You Can To Spread Good

If your heart aches for those affected by many of the natural disasters going on all around the world, (I know mine does), then take inspired action this week + help in whatever way you can.

Even when you think there’s not much you can do, remember to simply:
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SPREAD GOOD. Every little bit helps.

Best selling author, Brene Brown, made a heartfelt video a few days ago from the center of a facility in Houston (#HurricaneHarvey) letting people know that although they are receiving tons of donations of used clothes and shoes, what they really need for evacuees is  (more…)

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