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Why You Must Unplug To Find Your Joy

You may not even realize you do this, but, have you noticed that when you’re feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, or just plain bummed-out…

you head straight to the social media apps on your phone, and begin scrolling + searching for something to cheer you up. (I do it too!)

Maybe you scroll through Facebook, then Twitter, checking the trending news feed, which gets you more bummed out, or mad, or sad.

So you head over to Instagram and maybe you like a few things, but it’s not enough. You scroll more. You watch a few Instagram stories.

You click back to Facebook. Maybe someone commented on your previous post.

But nothing. Except you see an actor post about a job they booked.

You don’t even have auditions.

You begin to feel worse.

Then someone in your home asks you a question. You get irritated.

You say, “Hold on, I’m just looking at something.”

You keep scrolling. Searching. For something. You have no idea what.

It’s addicting. It’s avoidance. It’s actually keeping you from moving forward.

You may think you’re trying to cheer yourself up, but here’s the truth:
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How To Have Everything Fall Into Place

Have you noticed, sometimes, that the harder you work, the tougher life often feels? (While others seem to float magically through life?)

Have you noticed that the more you push, make giant to-do lists + tell yourself you need to do everything at once, the more exhausted you feel?

Have you gotten so used to doing things this way, that you’ve even forgotten what brings you joy?

I know, because I operated like this for YEARS.

Yep. I used to be that actress who would never leave town (FOMO), was constantly working on improving my skills + definitely put “fun” last on my long list of “things to achieve this week.”

And it’s not to say, I’m against, working hard + mastering your craft. I still put my time in, but I just do it from a different place these days. A more aligned place. A place where I’ve first made joy + fun a priority. (Isn’t that why we’re all doing this?)

What I’ve noticed is that when you get back to what brings you joy, things start showing up more easily. People offer more assistance. And opportunities come when you least expect them.

When you’re finding joy in your life, Universal forces begin to work in your favor.

So how do you get into a state of ease and flow in your life, and have everything fall into place?

Take time for what brings you joy. (Hint: It’s kinda why we’re all here.)
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Why Needing The Job To Bring You Joy Never Works

Do you do this to yourself?

I know most actors go through some version of this conversation:

I’ll feel happy when…

I get a new agent.
I get auditions from the new agent.
I get more auditions from the new agent.
I get callbacks from the auditions.
I book the job.
I book a bigger job.
I book 3 big jobs in a row that don’t conflict with each other.
I book a VO campaign.
I book a 6 figure VO campaign.
And on and on and on.

It’s almost like scrolling on social media. No matter what you find, you are training your brain to search for more, because what you find is never quite enough.

And sometimes we get so busy searching and seeking and looking for something (or even someone) to complete us or make us feel whole or make us feel like we’ve accomplished something, that we fail to realize our happiness is right here in this moment…whether we get the agent, the job, the bigger job, the campaign or not.

Yep. Right here in this moment, is not only where your joy lies, it is also where your true power lies.

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Most believe in efforting their way through. But when things aren’t showing up, and you’re feeling bad about it in any way, it’s always a reminder to (more…)

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How To Retrain Your Brain For Audition Success

How do you start your day when you have an audition?
Do you speak lovingly to yourself, or are you filled with worry, doubt or fear?

How you begin your day, is usually how you live your life. Since every thought you think is creating your experience, it helps to be mindful of what you are telling yourself. We are all using affirmations all day long, the question is, are you affirming the positive or the negative?

You’ll know by the way you feel.

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If you don’t like how you feel, change your thoughts.

When you start to change your way of thinking, your inner voice will always react immediately with either fear or love.

But what if you used a different criteria for responding to your habitual internal dialogue?

Try this: “If it feels good, it’s true for me. If it feels bad, it’s a lie.”
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10 Life Lessons I Learned When I Was Single

My husband and I are in the midst of enjoying a 10th anniversary getaway trip.

To inspire you all, I wanted to share the timeline of how we met (10 years before our first date!) and the 10 valuable life lessons I learned when I was single (amidst lots of tears + frustrations).

I hope this helps you to know that even when things look like they might not be going your way, greater forces are at work in your life.

I also hope my story will help you ask yourself these 3 questions today:

What if my timing is divine?
What if everything is unfolding exactly as it’s meant to?
What if I started keeping the faith?

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10 Life Lessons I Learned When I Was Single

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2 Things Every Actor Should Do This Summer (And Why It Will Help Your Career)

Remember when you were a kid + you got so excited about the smallest of things?

Riding your bike around the neighborhood.
Eating popsicles on the front porch.
Going to the beach.

Remember how you were so engaged with what you were doing that the time just seemed to fly by while you were laughing + playing?

Watching my kids run + skip down the path to the beach this week reminded me that there are…

2 things every actor should do this summer:

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4 Abilities (You Already Have) That Give You Ultimate Freedom

I’m making it quick today, as it’s the day before 4th of July here in the U.S (one of my favorite holidays) and we are decorating bikes and scooters for a parade.

This was a popular post from this time last year, so I’m sharing it again today…..

As I was thinking of all the freedoms I am so blessed to enjoy in this country (including connecting with actors all over the world!), I ran across this quote from Steven Covey…

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How To Make Today A Fresh Start

How often do you wake up + start thinking the same thoughts you did yesterday?

Why isn’t my agent getting me more auditions?
Why didn’t I get a callback?
Why does that actress in my class book everything?.
Why can’t I_____________? (fill in the blank)

But what you miss when you start your day asking the same questions you asked yourself yesterday, is that, it is not the agent, the casting director or ‘this business’ that is keeping you stuck.

It is you.

Your habit of daily negative focus is what keeps you glued to where you are.

Begin today by simply noticing where you focus your thoughts in all kinds of situations.

When you’re stuck in traffic, do you tend to focus on the stopped traffic or do you notice the palm trees?

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How Successful People Start Their Day

After researching the morning rituals of some of the most successful creative people in the world, I discovered that there was a common thread.

Although each person’s process was a bit different, it’s was interesting to learn that people like Oprah and Tony Robbins, didn’t begin their day reacting to the requests of others.

(And we can only imagine how long that request list might be on a daily basis.)

Instead, they tuned inward, first.  They filled their own cup before filling anyone else’s.  
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Oprah Winfrey begins each day (more…)

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Why Wishing Things Were Different Works Against You

When you try to fix something, you fixate on it. You spend your time + energy focusing on the problem.

Albert Einstein once said, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

So whatever feels like a problem this week, what if you simply reframed your thinking?

Better yet, instead of wishing things were different, what if you didn’t even see them as problems, but rather as the perfect next steps along your path?

I had an epiphany this week, in the midst of watching the Hollywood Reporter Roundtable discussion of dramatic actresses, (where Oprah and Nicole Kidman talk about being nervous and being scared of making fools of themselves), and I realized that thinking you will feel differently when you get to somewhere other than where you are right now, is an illusion.

And I just started asking this question….
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What if everything was perfect exactly as it is right now? What if you didn’t need one thing to change for you to feel good?

What if the timing of all that is and isn’t happening for you was perfect? (more…)

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