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Why Being Cranky Works Against You (And How To Turn It Around.)

None of us are immune to feeling cranky. It happens.

We all have bad days, maybe even a few frustrating months, or for some Americans, an election that didn’t turn out the way they wanted.

I’m all for feeling your feelings, acknowledging your pain and your hurt. That is part of being human,

But at some point, whether it’s in regard to your acting career, your personal life or another’s political view, you have to find a way to shift from focusing from being critical to being compassionate (towards yourself + others). That’s when things begin to shift.

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I’m going to leave the political debate for those on Facebook (P.S. it’s OK to take a break from that too)

And stick with inspiring and uplifting you, which is always my weekly intention.

But, it’s not that I am immune to crankiness. (more…)

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Why Giving Thanks In Advance Is So Powerful

The most powerful of all human emotions?  Gratitude.

We see it expressed on every single awards show pouring out of the winning actors.

Maybe you saw it just last week in the eyes of every single baseball player on the Chicago Cubs – and in the eyes of every single fan after the rain delay and the amazing 10th inning win.

It’s a pure combination of happiness, joy and love. (As a Chicago native, I’m still feeling this powerful emotional combination after the first World Series win in 108 years!)

But what if you didn’t wait until after something amazing happened to express gratitude? What if you didn’t wait until Thanksgiving?  What if you started giving thanks in advance, now?

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Shining In The Spotlight: From Stressed At Auditions To Working With Helen Mirren

When I heard that Karen Valero went from feeling stressed at auditions to working with Helen Mirren (and more!), I had to find out exactly what changed within her to create such a big shift in her career, since the inner change always comes first.

Well, a few months prior, Karen joined my Spotlight Club and started using the tools I create each month to help actors cultivate a success mindset.  (Grab your free trial here).

She declared a few months prior to the big booking, “I’ve been listening to the Spotlight guided meditations + writing in the Spotlight journal everyday + this is actually working!  Everything seems so positive and I feel great about my goals.  I’m so excited.”  

That’s always the first breakthrough – feeling better.  When you start feeling great about your goals, the Universe rises to meet you.  When you feel good, you’re in receiving mode, you take inspired action and things just start happening.

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Read our interview and learn exactly how Karen’s journey unfolded. (more…)

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Why You Must Find Time To Take A Break

I just got back from a great vacation in Puerto Vallarta with my family.  Yes, in the middle of October! Between the water slides, the surf break right out front and the chocolate fondue fountain at dinner, everyone in the family had a blast. (Oh yeah, and catamaran rides were included!)

I remember years ago, in my single days, I was so focused on pursuing my career, that not only did I rarely take a vacation, I barely took a day off!

What I know now is that we all need a break. Not only is it good for your body, it refreshes your mind, your soul and your perspective.

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How To Get Out Of Your Own Way (And Into Receiving Mode)

Wanna know how you get in your own way and what’s really keeping you from what you want?

Believe it or not, it’s your own dissatisfaction that it’s not here yet.

Yep, your dissatisfaction, “in the meantime,” is your most common hindrance to getting closer to your goals.

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I almost got mad when I first read this, but then felt better knowing that it’s the simplest one to release.

Feeling like our dreams are somehow eluding us or are delayed can feel deeply frustrating.

But underneath all the dissatisfaction, is an opportunity to dig deeper, to redirect your focus and to release it all so you can (more…)

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How To Overcome Overwhelm

How is it October already?

As my kids were noticing Halloween costumes in the stores this weekend, I turned a corner and saw the Christmas ornaments being displayed.  What?

With only three months left until the end of the year, the feeling of overwhelm can arise from added commitments, responsibilities and heightened expectations.

Maybe you have a long “to-do” list as we head into the holiday season or you’re wanting to tackle that one creative project that you never seem to find time to finish.  Perhaps the thought of taking action sends you into overwhelm and you end up cleaning your desk or binge watching Game of Thrones instead?

If we want to overcome overwhelm, we must first understand what it is exactly.

I love this advice, from best-selling author Esther Hicks, and I wanted to offer my own perspective as well.

So here we are together….

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So how do you overcome overwhelm?

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How To Create Total Fulfillment…Right Now

What would create total fulfillment for you?

You may answer this questions with a long list of things you’d like to accomplish, experiences you’d like to have or the kinds of roles you’d like to play.

But what if there’s a way to create total fulfillment…right now?

There is. (And you might be surprised that it has nothing to do with accomplishing more.)

This week, what would happen if every time you had a free minute instead of reaching for your phone, you paused…and made a more conscious choice.

So instead of scrolling through Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Snapchat, (occupying your mind with distraction, comparison or the endless search for how to improve yourself), you simply stopped.

And instead, you took a deep breath + recited this mantra….

Nothing is broken. Nothing is missing. Nothing is lacking.
I am whole + complete exactly as I am right now in this very moment.

That’s it.

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9 Loving Thoughts Every Actor Should Be Thinking Post Emmys

Did you watch the Emmys last night?  Did it inspire you or leave you feeling dejected?  Well, today is a new day + I have 2 important questions for you…

1) Who won Best Supporting Actress In A Drama Series?  Yeah, I just turned it off, and I’d have to Google it to be sure.

2) When’s the last time you thought a loving thought about yourself?

Last time you booked a job?  When you had a great audition?  After positive feedback at a callback?

I’m hoping, it was seconds ago.

If the Emmys had you comparing + despairing, then you can use these 9 thoughts as a beginner’s guide to loving yourself while pursuing your acting career.  (Instead of waiting for the next booking (or an Emmy nomination) to do so.)

When you begin to flow loving thoughts your way every day, often they open up a waterfall of emotions that have been pushed down or locked away.

See what happens when you allow these 9 loving thoughts to touch your heart.

Whichever one resonates with you the most, is probably the one you most needed to hear (or tell yourself).

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Repeat them out loud to yourself + see what happens.
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How To Find Your Happy Place…More Often

Waiting for something to happen in your career for you to feel happy?

As an actor, I know it’s easy to make your happiness depend on

  • how often you’re booking a job.
  • how many lines you have once you book the job.
  • how many scenes you have once you book the job.
  • how nice your trailer is once you book the job.
  • if the director was nice to you while you’re shooting the job.
  • if you’ll ever be returning to the job for future episodes or get rehired.
  • if your agent is getting you in for other jobs
  • if you book a series.
  • if you book a series on Netflix.
  • if you book a series on Netflix that gets nominated for an Emmy.
  • if you get nominated for an Emmy.
  • if you win an Emmy.
  • if you’re in a film that goes to Sundance or Cannes.
  • if that film gets nominated for an Academy Award.
  • if you end up nominated for an Academy Award.
  • if you win an Academy Award

and on and on and on….

Well guess what happens when you allow that long list to dictate your happiness?

  1. You give all your power away.
  2. You use external achievements as an excuse to not accept yourself right now.
  3. You live life backwards.
  4. The things on this list seem to elude you.
  5. Happiness never comes.

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