The thing that keeps you from what you want (is not your agent, the casting director, or other actors in the waiting room at your audition, etc.) but it is actually something that you can control: Your thoughts.
Sometimes we know that we should be talking to ourselves more lovingly, but we just can’t find the words.
Other times we’re so ingrained in old habits of negative self-talk, that we literally don’t know what self-compassion even sounds like or where to begin?
Today I’m offering up 9 mindful mantras for returning to love.
Adopt any (and all) that feel good to you this week as a way of practicing loving self-acceptance by choosing better thoughts.
You may just find that beginning here, with the thoughts you think and the things you tell yourself, make it easier to start seeing your life (and your career) through the lens of love.
Or as the late great Wayne Dyer stated, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
So become aware of what you say to yourself today, and in each present moment, practice returning to love.
Have you spent most of 2018 condemning where you are?
It’s okay. I’ve been there. In fact, I spent most of my 20’s + early 30’s in “never enough mode.”
Yep. No matter what I was doing, (even when I shooting 26 commercials a year as a campaign spokesperson, or shooting great guest-star roles on TV), it was still never enough.
And when I wasn’t working, that “never enough” noise got even louder. Like screaming in my ear, loud.
Maybe you can relate? Maybe you’re “shoulding” on yourself right now?
It sounds kind of like this:
I should be further along by now. I should have booked a pilot by now. I should have been a series regular by now. I should have been in major feature films by now. I should have a boyfriend/girlfriend by now. I should be married by now. I should have had kids by now. And on, and on.
As I look back, I realize how much time I actually wasted “shoulding” all over myself.
Those “should” statements always come from a place of fear, and are always driven by the ego-mind.
The ego loves making you feel like what you are doing is never enough. And these days, add a few scrolls through social media to the mix, and you might just be in full meltdown mode.
And guess what? It never ends, unless you take control of your inner life + create a new daily practice that empowers you.
What happens when you are in “never enough mode,” is you are training your brain to look for (more…)
I have found that the hardest part of manifesting is learning to let go of my attachment to the result.
As a recovering type-A doer, my biggest frustration has been after I’ve done all the visualizing, taken all the inspired actions, committed to the daily work, and things aren’t manifesting on the exact timeline I want.
I’ve come to realize that underneath all the frustration, is usually a massive attachment to how I think it all should go. (And how I need these desired results, now!) Can you relate?
So often, when I really surrender, the Universe surprises me with something even better than I could have ever planned.
So if you’re thinking about what else you can do to create what you want, it just might be time to let go of when, how and where you think it will show up.
When I find myself over-checking for a result, I always come back to this daily mantra: I trust that the Universe has heard my every wish and knows the time, the place and how it will all unfold.
For so long, I used to think “What else can I do?” And now I realize, the better question is (more…)
To manifest anything in your life, whether it is a relationship, a thing, an experience, or even a next level role, you must do this one thing first:
You must be able to imagine it.
Look around you right now.
Everything you see (even the phone or the computer that you are reading this on) first began as an idea in someone’s imagination.
They didn’t just think about it once and forget it. They gave their devoted attention to bringing their vision to life.
And it all began with the imagination – (hint: this is the actors’ greatest tool!)
Yet sometimes we can create a character more easily than we can create our own success.
But here’s the good news:
“Your imagination is able to do all that you ask in proportion to the degree of your attention.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer. Here are 7 questions to discover what degree of attention you are giving to your desires… (more…)
And this morning, I’m back on the set, shooting another episode of a wonderful TV show I worked on last week + am feeling so grateful to do what I love, while also inspiring other actors along the way.
I want you to know that just 4 weeks ago, after having some great auditions and not really booking anything, I was feeling pretty down about how 2018 was going.
I wanted to feel better, but there were days, where I just couldn’t get out of my own funk + lift myself up. Can you relate?
Well, it got me thinking….
It seems we search for ways to feel good, and often run in fear of feeling anything less than what we deem as “positive emotions.”
But what if feeling all emotions were positive? What if every emotion you feel throughout your day was here to awaken you? And what if you could start loving it all?
We often spend our time judging, criticizing + labeling ourselves + our emotions + then adding to the story of what it all means. What if, throughout your day, whatever thought or emotion was getting your attention, you could simply(more…)
When there are slow patches in your career, do you go down the dark rabbit hole of worry + self-doubt?
Do you start obsessing about how you did on your last audition or wondering if you’ll ever get another one?
I know. I’ve been there.
But, when you shift your focus from what is not working to what’s going right in your life, things will begin to shift in your favor.
This year started off kinda quiet for me (well, except all of my free trainings for actors!), and it would have been easy for me to start ranting + raving….
“What are my reps doing?” “Where are my auditions?” “What am I missing out on?”
But asking myself those questions only produces answers (and feelings) rooted in lack and fear.
So instead, I focused all of my energy on helping other actors (like you) succeed, while getting into a mental head-space of radical appreciation for what was working in my life.
Why would this matter?
Within the next week, I ended up getting 3 amazing auditions, including a request to read for a different role on a project I had already been in for late last year.
(Something I didn’t even know would come back around, and could have easily spent a lot of wasted time examining what I might have not done “right” at that initial audition.)
And then, a wonderful booking came in (which I can’t give details about yet) and an invitation to attend a red carpet Oscar party.
And all from shifting my focus + how it made me feel when nothing was going on. That’s it.
Sounds simple, right? It Is, but many actors choose to take the struggling route of complaining + blaming + then berating themselves. Then they spend their days busying themselves with “doing more” from this space of lack.
What they don’t realize, is that it’s hamster wheel that just produces more of the same.
So, what if, no matter how things look right now, you told yourself this:
Instead of spending anytime criticizing or berating myself today,
I marvel at all I’ve done + who I’ve become along the way.
YOUR AFFIRMATIONS ALLOWED ME TO STEP OUT OF THE FEAR AND BE PRESENT IN THE ROOM.
"I just returned from an audition after listening to your guided meditations. Your affirmations allowed me to step out of the fear and be present in the room. As I waited for my audition I envisioned the session being successful and feeling empowered afterward. And it was and I did."
I BOOKED THE JOB! LISTENING TO CREATING POWERFUL AUDITIONS MADE A DIFFERENCE!
"Been listening to your "Creating Powerful Auditions" mp3 daily since purchasing about a week ago. Listened to it on the way to an audition...took a few moments before leaving my car to do the visualizations. I walked into the audition room feeling totally empowered, feeling light. I booked the job. I feel your album made a difference. Thank you, Wendy."
SINCE LISTENING TO YOUR GUIDED MEDITATIONS, I BOOKED 2 FEATURE FILMS
"I bought Creating Powerful Auditions and I listen to it every morning. "Empowering Myself" is my absolute favorite meditation, sometimes I put it on repeat until I fully and truly feel every declaration. Since I've been listening to your guided meditations I booked my first feature film + also recently booked the lead role in my first horror film. Thank you for coming into my life!”
YOUR CREATION IS...VERY POWERFUL, IT CALMED ME, PREPARED ME & FOCUSED ME + I BOOKED JOBS.
"Since I began using your guided meditations I have now, in only a few months, booked up an entire year of work. Your creation is truly a blessing + very powerful. Before every audition I have done recently I have listened to at least 3 of your tracks and it has calmed me, prepared me and focused me."
I'VE TURNED A SLOW STREAK INTO A BOOKING STREAK AND I FEEL REALLY EMPOWERED.
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I BOOKED TWO ACTING GIGS IN THE SAME WEEK BECAUSE I HAD HER CD ON REPEAT!
"I listen to Wendy's guided meditations pretty much every chance I get. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have her amazing voice in my ear keeping me empowered, inspired + in the right mental space to persevere day in and day out. I booked two acting gigs in the same week because I had Wendy's Creating Powerful Auditions album on repeat. Thank you WENDY for your positivity + light!"