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How To Find Your Happy Place…More Often

Waiting for something to happen in your career for you to feel happy?

As an actor, I know it’s easy to make your happiness depend on

  • how often you’re booking a job.
  • how many lines you have once you book the job.
  • how many scenes you have once you book the job.
  • how nice your trailer is once you book the job.
  • if the director was nice to you while you’re shooting the job.
  • if you’ll ever be returning to the job for future episodes or get rehired.
  • if your agent is getting you in for other jobs
  • if you book a series.
  • if you book a series on Netflix.
  • if you book a series on Netflix that gets nominated for an Emmy.
  • if you get nominated for an Emmy.
  • if you win an Emmy.
  • if you’re in a film that goes to Sundance or Cannes.
  • if that film gets nominated for an Academy Award.
  • if you end up nominated for an Academy Award.
  • if you win an Academy Award

and on and on and on….

Well guess what happens when you allow that long list to dictate your happiness?

  1. You give all your power away.
  2. You use external achievements as an excuse to not accept yourself right now.
  3. You live life backwards.
  4. The things on this list seem to elude you.
  5. Happiness never comes.

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How To Live A Happier #Actorlife

What would you do this summer, if you truly believed your potential was limitless, that your goals will all be met at the perfect time + in ways you may not even imagine?

How might that shift your mood today?  How might that shift what you do today?  Would you relax more?  Would you go play?  Would you try something new?

What if, in the midst of any darkness, you trusted that a spark of light would appear and inspire a deep knowing within you?

What if, right now, you could go from hoping to believing to knowing that what you want is on its way to you.

How do you do this? How do you live a happier #actorlife?

You stop allowing the current conditions to dictate your mood.

 

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How To Embrace Uncertainty (And Thrive)

An actor’s life is filled with uncertainty. Auditions but no callbacks, callbacks but no bookings, or you finally land a series and…it gets cancelled.

In the uncertain world of pursuing an acting career, you must learn ways to not just survive disappointment, rejection and the down times, but know how to thrive in spite of them all.

Instead of taking any of it personally and allowing it to threaten your self-esteem (this is a daily practice), you can literally rewire your brain to create certainty in uncertain times.

And the good news is…

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“Those who are certain can afford to wait without anxiety.” – Marianne Williamson

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How To Discover Your Infinite Worth: 5 Steps To Claiming It Now

Do you base your worthiness on your looks, weight, income, agent, credits, imdb rating, the popularity of your social media posts or whether or not you get a callback or book a pilot?

Guess what?  Looks change, pilots don’t get picked up, and imdb ratings are altered every time a movie opens.

Basing your worth on these external, transient factors is like jumping on a roller-coaster ride of self-judgment that will ultimately diminish your self-esteem.

What if you just decided, right now, that you are worthy?  No matter your age, weight, income, credits, reps, imdb rating or bookings?  Does that feel hard to do?

Deepak Chopra reminds us, “You alone are the judge of your worth and your goal is to discover infinite worth in yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks.” 
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The Primary Cause Of Your Unhappiness + How To Shift It

This quote got to my heart last night….
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“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.” – 
Eckhart Tolle

I had to read this quote a few times  + found myself almost arguing out loud with Eckhart.  But…. but… but….

And yet, the more I read these wise words, the more I realized it IS our thoughts, our perspective, our reactions, our wanting to be right (about being wronged) that are the primary cause of our unhappiness.

And it got me thinking (In fact, I ask myself these questions as I pose them to you….)

7 questions to help you shift the cause of your unhappiness… (more…)

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The Secret To Finding True Happiness…Right Now

It’s easy to feel happy when you are enjoying the conditions of your life.  You book the job, you lose the weight, you fall in love, you sign with an agent, you make more money, and you feel amazing, right?

What if you could feel amazing today without needing any single external condition to change?

What if you could feel you are amazing without the booking, without losing weight, without being in a relationship, without the agent, without the money, without all the stuff you want because you think you’ll feel better once you have it?

When how you feel about yourself isn’t based upon what is or isn’t showing up in your life, you are practicing unconditional love.

If you’ve been holding off loving yourself or feeling at peace because you’re not quite satisfied with the conditions of your life, then you are practicing conditional love.

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Are You Pushing Away Your Own Acting Success? 4 Steps To Turn It Around

Did you watch the Oscars last night?  How did it make you feel about your own acting career?  Did watching it inspire you or depress you?

For the longest time, I couldn’t go to the movies without jumping on imdb.com when I got home, comparing myself to actors in the film.

Where did this always leave me?   Feeling bad about my own success.

No matter what I had done, who I had worked with or the accolades I received for my work, it seemed there was always someone who was doing more or better and living a bigger and more fabulous life.

Then I finally realized, from my ego’s point of view…..it will always be that way!

The real question to ask yourself: Am I using another actor’s success to disconnect me from my own worth + value?
If you are condemning yourself for where you are, then you are out of alignment with your own greatness.

YOU are the one who is actually pushing away your own success.

Have you noticed that when you hear about a classmate, friend or acquaintance book a job, you sometimes end up feeling frustrated + defeated, that somehow their success means you are failing?

We’ve all been there. But I am here to tell you….

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How To Predict Your Future: 3 Questions Every Actor Should Ask

How to predict your future?

You can predict your own future by looking at 3 areas:

  1. The thoughts you are thinking…
  2. The words you are speaking…
  3. The actions you are taking…

Today.

Who you are being + what you are doing in those three areas today will directly effect what shows up in your life tomorrow.

So, if you want a future filled with success, abundance, joy + fulfilling work, here are 3 questions every actor should ask:

  1. Are my thoughts filled with love + joy or doubt + worry?
  2. Am I speaking about what is working or complaining about what isn’t working?
  3. Am I taking actions that stretch me or that keep me in my comfort zone?

The answer to these three questions will guide you to know where you can course correct.

Keep in mind, it’s not about being perfect, staying in a lotus pose all day or only being joyful.

It’s about being aware of what you are focused upon + knowing how to witness it, allow it + shift it when it feels right.

Some days are easier than others to feel good about yourself + where you are in your life + your career.

But what if you could unconditionally love yourself for the next 30 days?  What if you simply chose to make self-love a daily practice?

As one of my favorite redheads wisely sadvised:
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Why Every Actor Should Take A Break From Improving Themselves

I sincerely hope you take the time this holiday season to rest, relax + renew your mind, body + soul.

I’ve always been a do-er, and in the past, whenever there was any down time, I’d find ways to fill it by improving my home, improving my workout, or learning new ways to improve myself.  Resting + relaxing often felt unproductive.

Now, I realize how giving your body a break from doing + your mind a break from trying to achieve, improve or figure things out, is exactly what your soul needs.

This time of year, I think every actor should take a break from improving themselves.  As an artist, there will always be room for improvement.  Better training. Better headshots. Better auditions.  And when you get the job, it’s easy to get in the headspace of wanting to do a better take, have a better storyline or deliver a better overall performance.

When you give yourself permission to take a break from improving yourself, especially as an artist, you’re expressing deep self-love + acknowledging your divine perfection, right here + now.

When you take the to time rest + relax, you also end up deepening a sense of trust in your life.  You may find yourself breathing deeper, feeling calmer + simply enjoying the present moment more.

In fact, napping is a perfect way to realign your energy, not only physically, but mentally, because when you slumber, all resistant thought ceases.

(I am actually proud to report, I took a 3 hour nap yesterday.  Every cell in my body needed it + I felt more clarity + more joyful when I awoke.)

So, if your holiday schedule is packed, try making an appointment with yourself to do something relaxing that has nothing to do with your acting career, this business, getting ahead or improving yourself or your craft in any way.

When you make an appointment in your calendar, it will make it easier to stick to your own self-care.  Or as we say around my busy home, “If it’s not scheduled, it’s not real.”

As a mom, wife, actress + business owner, I have finally learned that the more I fill myself up first, in loving ways, the more love I have to give others.  And there’s nothing to improve there….except maybe taking more time to do it!

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