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The Primary Cause Of Your Unhappiness + How To Shift It

This quote got to my heart last night….
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“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.” – 
Eckhart Tolle

I had to read this quote a few times  + found myself almost arguing out loud with Eckhart.  But…. but… but….

And yet, the more I read these wise words, the more I realized it IS our thoughts, our perspective, our reactions, our wanting to be right (about being wronged) that are the primary cause of our unhappiness.

And it got me thinking (In fact, I ask myself these questions as I pose them to you….)

7 questions to help you shift the cause of your unhappiness… (more…)

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The Secret To Finding True Happiness…Right Now

It’s easy to feel happy when you are enjoying the conditions of your life.  You book the job, you lose the weight, you fall in love, you sign with an agent, you make more money, and you feel amazing, right?

What if you could feel amazing today without needing any single external condition to change?

What if you could feel you are amazing without the booking, without losing weight, without being in a relationship, without the agent, without the money, without all the stuff you want because you think you’ll feel better once you have it?

When how you feel about yourself isn’t based upon what is or isn’t showing up in your life, you are practicing unconditional love.

If you’ve been holding off loving yourself or feeling at peace because you’re not quite satisfied with the conditions of your life, then you are practicing conditional love.

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Are You Pushing Away Your Own Acting Success? 4 Steps To Turn It Around

Did you watch the Oscars last night?  How did it make you feel about your own acting career?  Did watching it inspire you or depress you?

For the longest time, I couldn’t go to the movies without jumping on imdb.com when I got home, comparing myself to actors in the film.

Where did this always leave me?   Feeling bad about my own success.

No matter what I had done, who I had worked with or the accolades I received for my work, it seemed there was always someone who was doing more or better and living a bigger and more fabulous life.

Then I finally realized, from my ego’s point of view…..it will always be that way!

The real question to ask yourself: Am I using another actor’s success to disconnect me from my own worth + value?
If you are condemning yourself for where you are, then you are out of alignment with your own greatness.

YOU are the one who is actually pushing away your own success.

Have you noticed that when you hear about a classmate, friend or acquaintance book a job, you sometimes end up feeling frustrated + defeated, that somehow their success means you are failing?

We’ve all been there. But I am here to tell you….

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How To Predict Your Future: 3 Questions Every Actor Should Ask

How to predict your future?

You can predict your own future by looking at 3 areas:

  1. The thoughts you are thinking…
  2. The words you are speaking…
  3. The actions you are taking…

Today.

Who you are being + what you are doing in those three areas today will directly effect what shows up in your life tomorrow.

So, if you want a future filled with success, abundance, joy + fulfilling work, here are 3 questions every actor should ask:

  1. Are my thoughts filled with love + joy or doubt + worry?
  2. Am I speaking about what is working or complaining about what isn’t working?
  3. Am I taking actions that stretch me or that keep me in my comfort zone?

The answer to these three questions will guide you to know where you can course correct.

Keep in mind, it’s not about being perfect, staying in a lotus pose all day or only being joyful.

It’s about being aware of what you are focused upon + knowing how to witness it, allow it + shift it when it feels right.

Some days are easier than others to feel good about yourself + where you are in your life + your career.

But what if you could unconditionally love yourself for the next 30 days?  What if you simply chose to make self-love a daily practice?

As one of my favorite redheads wisely sadvised:
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Why Every Actor Should Take A Break From Improving Themselves

I sincerely hope you take the time this holiday season to rest, relax + renew your mind, body + soul.

I’ve always been a do-er, and in the past, whenever there was any down time, I’d find ways to fill it by improving my home, improving my workout, or learning new ways to improve myself.  Resting + relaxing often felt unproductive.

Now, I realize how giving your body a break from doing + your mind a break from trying to achieve, improve or figure things out, is exactly what your soul needs.

This time of year, I think every actor should take a break from improving themselves.  As an artist, there will always be room for improvement.  Better training. Better headshots. Better auditions.  And when you get the job, it’s easy to get in the headspace of wanting to do a better take, have a better storyline or deliver a better overall performance.

When you give yourself permission to take a break from improving yourself, especially as an artist, you’re expressing deep self-love + acknowledging your divine perfection, right here + now.

When you take the to time rest + relax, you also end up deepening a sense of trust in your life.  You may find yourself breathing deeper, feeling calmer + simply enjoying the present moment more.

In fact, napping is a perfect way to realign your energy, not only physically, but mentally, because when you slumber, all resistant thought ceases.

(I am actually proud to report, I took a 3 hour nap yesterday.  Every cell in my body needed it + I felt more clarity + more joyful when I awoke.)

So, if your holiday schedule is packed, try making an appointment with yourself to do something relaxing that has nothing to do with your acting career, this business, getting ahead or improving yourself or your craft in any way.

When you make an appointment in your calendar, it will make it easier to stick to your own self-care.  Or as we say around my busy home, “If it’s not scheduled, it’s not real.”

As a mom, wife, actress + business owner, I have finally learned that the more I fill myself up first, in loving ways, the more love I have to give others.  And there’s nothing to improve there….except maybe taking more time to do it!

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The #1 Question Every Actor Should Ask In December

As the year comes to a close, I love taking the time to “take inventory” on the past 12 months.

The challenge can be to do this from a soul-connected place of love vs. an ego-connected place of fear + judgment.

Your ego wants to know the answer to these two questions:
How many jobs have you booked and how much money have you made?

Your soul wants to know the answer to these two questions:
How have you loved and who you have effected?

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How To Become The Happiest Actor You Know

There are 2 important questions you need to ask yourself:

1) How happy are you right now?
Do you know that everything you want is because you think you’ll be happier once you have it.  Every role, every possession, every relationship, every award, every accolade.

2) How much fun are you having on your journey as an actor?
Many actors who are unhappy today say they’ll just be happy when they “are on a series, book the job, or make a million dollars,” yet we’ve seen so many examples of actors with tons of success who are still miserable.

Why? Because you can’t have a happy ending to an unhappy journey.   You’ve got to find ways to get happy now no matter what is going on in your career or life.
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Happiness is an inside job. You don’t have to wait for your circumstances to change to find joy, but instead try changing where you are focusing your attention.

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” –Dr. Wayne Dyer

Here are 7 habits to becoming the happiest actor you know:
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The Real Secret To Aligning With What You Want In Your Acting Career + Life…

Seems as if we are all looking for the answers, the secret, the perfect advice or words or person or agent that will unlock doors + opportunities for us to bring our dreams to life.

After spending years searching in books, acting classes, with coaches, in workshops + seminars…..I’ve discovered the real secret to getting what you want in your acting career +  your life.

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The Daily Shift That Could Change Your Acting Career

As a professional actor, you probably set goals + have a plan of action, but if you want to significantly change your career + life, you must make this a daily practice:


Notice how you are speaking to yourself + others daily.

It might seem like no big deal to chime in with other actors at a callback about how long you’ve all been waiting, tell yourself you’re not really right for a role or post on social media that you hate pilot season, but every thought you think + word you speak has energy.

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How To Feel Good Now: 4 Simple Steps

When you watch a movie or a television show, do you ever check an actor’s IMDB credits, biography or representation, compare it to your own and end up feeling bad about yourself?

Why compare + despair?

When you spend time wishing you had someone else’s career, you are depriving yourself of the beautiful life experiences that are actually happening to you right now. Comparing takes you out of being in the present moment. The past is over, the future is unknown, so all any of us have is this moment, right now. The good news is that ALL your power is in THIS moment. Here’s how to reclaim it and feel better!
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Here are 4 simple steps to feeling good now:

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