This theme (and your response to it) got me thinking about how so much of our worth + value has been tied up for so long in what we produce, what we do, and what we accomplish.
Many of us have spent years hustling, and being “busy doing more” to show ourselves (and anyone we think might be watching) that we are of value.
Even in our world of “show-business,” it really is all about show. When you book a job, it seems the minute you wrap, everyone wants to know, what’s next? What do you have to “show” for yourself?
But now that the world has essentially “stopped all the doing,” and our industry is on a global pause, it’s given each of us a time to re-evaluate how we perceive ourselves + even redefine what success truly means.
Does success mean being productive to the point of burnout + overwhelm?
Does success mean splitting your energy in a million different ways?
Does success mean hustling + being everything to everyone?
What if you used this time to think about where you were putting your energy, how it was (or wasn’t) serving you + how you can reshape your life moving forward.
And for those of you who love a good to-do list, I thought I’d put one together for your well-being.
When you align with the inner knowing that you don’t have to be productive to be of value, you can then choose activities, people + projects that light you up, instead of using any of it to prove your worthiness.
Have you been bombarded with “how to be more productive” suggestions lately, while feeling guilty that you’re still in your pajamas at noon?
Have you been noticing all of the free opportunities lately, while simultaneously feeling overwhelmed on where to begin?
You’re not alone, and today I want to address it all from a different perspective.
Not the one that shames you into being busy doing more, but the one that invites you to step back + reframe it all from a place of freedom, choice, and love.
I know a lot of actors who are feeling very frustrated by all they feel they should be doing right now.
Does this look like your list of “should do’s” from the last few weeks?
I should submit to every online open casting call.
I should attend every free Zoom call for actors.
I should create more content for social media.
I should comment more on social media.
I should practice a new monologue.
I should hone my self-tape skills.
I should work on 5 new accents.
I should update my marketing.
I should be more productive.
I should start a podcast.
I should workout daily.
I should take a nap.
Who wouldn’t feel overwhelmed?
When you are telling yourself what you “should-do,” and it feels heavy, that’s a great indication that the action is coming from a place of fear and lack.
Ultimately, you are telling yourself that if you don’t do the things on your “should-do” list, you’re not making the most of your “quarantine time.”
This is a lie the ego wants you to believe.
When your action comes from an energy of fear, lack and self-doubt it will never result in success (during a global pandemic or anytime!)
Instead, this week, I invite you to replace any should with could, and see what happens?
When you reframe it in this way, then every idea becomes an invitation that you can choose to decline or accept, based on what feels good to you in the moment.
When you think of each “could-do” as an invitation, you regain control, because you get to(more…)
I celebrated a milestone birthday yesterday. (Yes, turning 30 is amazing! I mean 40. I mean 50!) What?
I feel 28 on the inside (and I rollerblade like I was 18), but as my late mother used to wisely tell me, at whatever age I was turning…”one day, you’ll wish you were this age.” So true.
So, today, I’m enjoying celebrating 5 decades on the planet + all I have learned, how I have grown, and who I have become along the way.
I’m also celebrating all of the love in my life, from my amazing readers like you, to my courageous students, to my closest friends and cherished family.
My husband put together a virtual party on Zoom for me this weekend + I was overcome with emotion seeing my beautiful friends, hearing their stories, well-wishes and toasts and simply feeling all of the love + connection.
It made me realize what really matters at the end of the day. It’s not the credits, the bookings or the awards.
It’s the love that flows from your heart to another person + back to you and how you make a difference in each other’s lives.
I’ve created something to help you ease anxiety + improve well-being during this global pandemic, and decided to give it away for free to anyone who needs it.
I know there’s a lot of fear + uncertainty in the world right now, but this is also a beautiful opportunity to go within + create more peace in your life.
The Dalai Lama states that, “World peace begins with inner peace.”
Sometimes, in the midst of chaos, people have an even harder time finding stillness.
In fact, one friend, who knows she should meditate, told me, “Right now, meditation just feels like worrying with my eyes closed.”
I get it. That’s where guided meditation comes in.
You don’t need to know how to meditate.
You don’t have to sit in the lotus pose.
You just need to know how to download an audio, press play + listen.
In under 15 minutes, I will guide you to quiet your mind, relax your body + open your heart.
Just imagine if everyone in the world did this for 15 minutes a day, what kind of peace might emerge out of this global pause.
Here’s to knowing that in every moment throughout your day, you have the option to choose peace over panic, and I’m excited to provide a free guided meditation to help you realign your mind + alleviate some of your stress.
This week begins the 3rd month of 2020. How has your energy been lately? Have you been feeling inspired + motivated or lethargic + unproductive?
Have you been allowing outer circumstances + events to dictate how you feel each day or have you been aligning your mind + getting out ahead of it all, before you even leave your home?
To be on a creative path, is to be on a spiritual path. The good news, is you have more creative control of your life than you might think, (and that all limitation is self-imposed).
So often we think that life is just happening to us, and we forget that our energy plays a vital role in the unfolding of it all.
Best-selling author, Dr. Joe Dispenza says,
“When it comes down to it, there are 2 ways to approach our lives: either as the victims to our lives or the creators of our lives. To live as the victim is to live within the limited belief system that everything in our outer world is happening to us.
Simply put, when things are good, you feel good. When things are bad, you feel bad. That’s the polarized world of victim consciousness in a nutshell.
Creative consciousness, on the other hand, is the awareness that when you feel joy, love, or gratitude before your creation is made manifest—& you combine that energy of joy, love, or gratitude with the intent of new information—it is that elevated frequency that can carry that thought.”
Quotes like this always inspire me so much.
When you learn how to choose your thoughts + emotions, you become a master of your life.
And what happens, is you begin to see yourself as infinite intelligence sees you.
In fact, here is what infinite intelligence would tell you today…
You matter. You belong. You are important. You are powerful. You are ready. Your time is now. You playing small does not serve the world. There will never be another you. You have many gifts to share. You have many amazing experiences ahead. You are worthy of all of life’s beautiful blessings. You are ready to receive.
We all want the conditions to change to bring us happiness. If we could only book the job, find the mate, win the Oscar….then, we’d feel better.
At the root of all that is feeling like somehow we are not enough, or worthy or valuable without the external condition we want being met.
I get it. I’ve been there. Heck, I was there a few weeks ago when 2 auditions in one day turned into….booking neither.
We put our hearts + souls into every audition, and when it doesn’t turn into a booking, it can chip away at who we think we are.
Now, I love that I get to play for a living, and I was proud of the work I did in both of those auditions, but it got me thinking about how much we define ourselves by whether we book the job or not + how dangerous that can be to our self-esteem.
So, my #MondayMotivation is for you to begin the week knowing this…
Whether you booked a job this month (or year) or not.
Even if you had 5 auditions with no callbacks.
Even if you have friends whose lives look perfect on the outside.
Even if you’re going through a rough time.
Even if you just got your heart broken.
Even if you don’t know how you’re going to pay your rent.
Even if you’re feeling sad.
Even if you’re feeling frustrated.
Even if your big dreams haven’t come true yet.
Even if you wonder how they ever will.
Please know, that your happiness, doesn’t lie in the next “booking.”
Sure, it’s fun to book the job, but don’t spend your days between now + then waiting to be happy, to feel like you’re enough, to feel worthy or to feel valuable.
Your happiness and all those feelings are a gift you can give yourself TODAY.
No matter where you are in your life or career (even if it’s not quite where you thought you would be by now), please breathe this in…
I'VE TURNED A SLOW STREAK INTO A BOOKING STREAK AND I FEEL REALLY EMPOWERED.
"Wendy is so generous with her knowledge and understanding of the deeper, inside work that goes into living a healthy, happy, well balanced actor life. Her daily inspirations mean so much to me...and I'm grateful for the custom guided meditation she wrote for me. I've turned a slow streak into a booking streak & I feel really empowered."
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YOUR AFFIRMATIONS ALLOWED ME TO STEP OUT OF THE FEAR AND BE PRESENT IN THE ROOM.
"I just returned from an audition after listening to your guided meditations. Your affirmations allowed me to step out of the fear and be present in the room. As I waited for my audition I envisioned the session being successful and feeling empowered afterward. And it was and I did."
I BOOKED THE JOB! LISTENING TO CREATING POWERFUL AUDITIONS MADE A DIFFERENCE!
"Been listening to your "Creating Powerful Auditions" mp3 daily since purchasing about a week ago. Listened to it on the way to an audition...took a few moments before leaving my car to do the visualizations. I walked into the audition room feeling totally empowered, feeling light. I booked the job. I feel your album made a difference. Thank you, Wendy."
SINCE LISTENING TO YOUR GUIDED MEDITATIONS, I BOOKED 2 FEATURE FILMS
"I bought Creating Powerful Auditions and I listen to it every morning. "Empowering Myself" is my absolute favorite meditation, sometimes I put it on repeat until I fully and truly feel every declaration. Since I've been listening to your guided meditations I booked my first feature film + also recently booked the lead role in my first horror film. Thank you for coming into my life!”
I BOOKED TWO ACTING GIGS IN THE SAME WEEK BECAUSE I HAD HER CD ON REPEAT!
"I listen to Wendy's guided meditations pretty much every chance I get. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have her amazing voice in my ear keeping me empowered, inspired + in the right mental space to persevere day in and day out. I booked two acting gigs in the same week because I had Wendy's Creating Powerful Auditions album on repeat. Thank you WENDY for your positivity + light!"
YOUR CREATION IS...VERY POWERFUL, IT CALMED ME, PREPARED ME & FOCUSED ME + I BOOKED JOBS.
"Since I began using your guided meditations I have now, in only a few months, booked up an entire year of work. Your creation is truly a blessing + very powerful. Before every audition I have done recently I have listened to at least 3 of your tracks and it has calmed me, prepared me and focused me."