What you may not know, is that Cate, Connie and I didn’t make it on to the final ballot.
I’m not sure how those lovely + talented actresses handled it, but I didn’t shed one tear that day, because I have diligently practiced (and continue to do so) not letting any of this define my value + worth.
It wasn’t always this way, but I now realize that using any part of this business as a measure of who you are is not only dangerous, but ultimately unfulfilling.
I recently read this quote from Demi Moore’s upcoming new memoir, Inside Out, in a NY Times article and it resonated so deeply with me. Hope it helps you too.
“If you carry a well of shame + unresolved trauma inside of you, no amount of money, no measure of success or celebrity can fill it. Using success in this business as a measure of your value, worth, or self-esteem, will not only rob you of your happiness every single time.” – Demi Moore.
Why is this so true? Because this business is not here to heal you. That deep inner work you have to do yourself.
And if you don’t, no matter what you achieve, your ego will tell you, (more…)
When you’re ambitious + hard working, and things aren’t showing up exactly as you’d like, when you’d like, it can be frustrating.
Or when you’ve just finished working on a job + all of a sudden there’s a slow period, it’s easy to get caught up in wondering. “What’s next?”
Or when you audition for something, and you’re “pinned” or put on “watch + advise,” end up getting released, and you have to go back to trusting that something even better is on it’s way. (This was me a few weeks ago).
In fact, today I want to share with you what’s gone on in the last month inside my own journey navigating #actorlife + how I’ve had to practice trusting the process.
Last month, I auditioned for a recurring guest-star role on a cool drama. My audition felt great, the casting director loved it, and I thought certainly, I’d have to mark my calendar for this 4 episode arc that would shoot in Atlanta.
In the midst of enjoying precious moments like this..
I heard my late father’s wise words: Take the trip. Do it now. Don’t wait.
Or as Mark Twain wisely once said:
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
I had a hard time going anywhere in my 20’s, (more…)
I’ve been committing to a set of daily morning success habits lately that have really helped me to feel good, stay inspired and get more done in less time.
We all have the same 24 hours in a day, but since your morning habits effect your whole day, see if you can implement a new one this week.
Try it for 21 days + see how you feel.
These are my top 5, and are all designed to help you begin your day in a proactive, positive + productive way.
1. Make Your Bed. (5 minutes)
Making your bed sets the tone for your entire day. When you take a few minutes + make your bed, you are beginning the day already accomplishing something and you are also taking a mindful moment to train your brain that the little things matter + your living space is important.
Sure, it’s easy to say, “It’s just going to get unmade later,” but that’s kind of like saying , “Why wash the dishes, if they’re just going to get dirty again?”
I’ve taught me children (my youngest one still has his moments of “it’s just going to get unmade later). to take pride in their rooms and that making their bed is part of taking care of their things, starting the day off right + feeling good about what they did themselves.
When we start the day with our bed made, we can use this mindset towards completing other tasks where the same dilemma arises, and we tell ourselves, this would be “easy to do or easy to blow off.”
As Nike says, just do it.
2. Drink Something Healthy (10 minutes)
We’ve had a juicer for years that has been gathering dust, but once I started reading all about @CeleryJuiceBenefits from the Medical Medium, and saw all the ways people healed all kinds of things on his Instagram Stories, I was in.
So I dusted off the juicer + now I make 16oz of celery juice a daily habit. (it’s been 45 days so far!).
Whether you do celery juice or some lemon with water, make your morning beverage (before your coffee) something that will flush toxins from your system + hydrate you.
You’ll be amazed at how easily this will become a habit that effects the rest of your day (and the well-being of your body + mind).
3. Write In A Journal (10 minutes)
Instead of checking social media, email + looking at the twitter news feed, check in with yourself first.
This has become a habit that has helped me so much lately.
Instead of checking “out” by diving deep into my phone, I like to begin each by checking “inward” first.
I sit in my backyard, and make a rapid fire list of all the things I am (more…)
My heart is heavy today, from all the fear and divisiveness that has been ignited in our country + the senseless acts of violence that follow.
I know that hate is taught, since we are all born with only love in our hearts, and my wish is that as each of us acts from a place of love, in all our interactions throughout the day and that the consciousness of love is expanded as a response.
I wrote this post on Friday, and want to share it today since I know we all have to get up again on Monday and make the most of our lives.
I hope it helps you.
So now that the year is half over, would you like to make the second half of 2019 even better than the first half?
If you set a goal in January + haven’t come close to achieving it, here’s why + how to change it.
So often we have the best intentions + just before we go to take action, we allow fear to stop us.
We rethink, review, + even remind ourselves of all of the reasons, it might not work.
Or we procrastinate + we put off what we know would be good for us, until another day.
From eating right, to exercising, to reaching out to someone, to diving into a creative project, often we associate more pain with actually doing a task, then the pleasure we will feel once it’s finished.
This is all rooted in small thinking from the lower mind, which is always ego-based + born out of fear or judgment.
Your ego doesn’t want you to change your lifestyle, test the waters, move outside of your comfort zone + alter anything on any level.
But the higher mind is rooted in love.
The higher mind is rooted in expansion.
The higher mind is limitless + sees the big picture long before you do.
So, maybe it’s time to ask yourself? Am I operating from a place of love or fear?
Most people don’t know how to operate from the higher mind, which is always accessible to you + done easily through guided meditation.
The expanded mind, your highest self, not only knows what is possible for you, but planted the idea in the first place to call you forward, to expand you and to invite you to where you want to go.
You can get to where you want to go, but it requires (more…)
With modern technology at your fingertips all day long + requests coming at you from all angles, giving yourself permission to pause, to take a break, as well as not check social media (or email) one more time can be challenging.
Our brains inherently want to remain active, in charge, and not relinquish control.
But when we choose to pause, we not only give our brains a rest, but we are also tuning into the higher mind.
Pausing can feel like we’re not accomplishing anything,
But actually, in our pause, our reset, we return to aligning with our highest self.
It is there that we gain clarity + inspiration + end up taking much less action to accomplish our desired outcome.
If you’re unsure about how to give yourself permission to pause, I’ve created an easy to remember acronym for the word P.A.U.S.E. to help you do just that.
So the next time you find yourself comparing + despairing on social media or feeling overwhelmed by all you have to do, (more…)
I’m on an out-of-town getaway with my husband for our 12 year anniversary.
We were married on 07.14.07, and as I reflect on the amazing years of marriage we’ve enjoyed so far, I thought it would be fitting to share some of my favorite post about love, life, letting go + the divine timing of it all.
I hope these articles help you to know that wherever you are in your life right now, you are exactly where you need to be and you can get to where you want to go (and beyond). (more…)
I BOOKED THE JOB! LISTENING TO CREATING POWERFUL AUDITIONS MADE A DIFFERENCE!
"Been listening to your "Creating Powerful Auditions" mp3 daily since purchasing about a week ago. Listened to it on the way to an audition...took a few moments before leaving my car to do the visualizations. I walked into the audition room feeling totally empowered, feeling light. I booked the job. I feel your album made a difference. Thank you, Wendy."
YOUR CREATION IS...VERY POWERFUL, IT CALMED ME, PREPARED ME & FOCUSED ME + I BOOKED JOBS.
"Since I began using your guided meditations I have now, in only a few months, booked up an entire year of work. Your creation is truly a blessing + very powerful. Before every audition I have done recently I have listened to at least 3 of your tracks and it has calmed me, prepared me and focused me."
YOUR AFFIRMATIONS ALLOWED ME TO STEP OUT OF THE FEAR AND BE PRESENT IN THE ROOM.
"I just returned from an audition after listening to your guided meditations. Your affirmations allowed me to step out of the fear and be present in the room. As I waited for my audition I envisioned the session being successful and feeling empowered afterward. And it was and I did."
SINCE LISTENING TO YOUR GUIDED MEDITATIONS, I BOOKED 2 FEATURE FILMS
"I bought Creating Powerful Auditions and I listen to it every morning. "Empowering Myself" is my absolute favorite meditation, sometimes I put it on repeat until I fully and truly feel every declaration. Since I've been listening to your guided meditations I booked my first feature film + also recently booked the lead role in my first horror film. Thank you for coming into my life!”
I BOOKED TWO ACTING GIGS IN THE SAME WEEK BECAUSE I HAD HER CD ON REPEAT!
"I listen to Wendy's guided meditations pretty much every chance I get. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have her amazing voice in my ear keeping me empowered, inspired + in the right mental space to persevere day in and day out. I booked two acting gigs in the same week because I had Wendy's Creating Powerful Auditions album on repeat. Thank you WENDY for your positivity + light!"
I'VE TURNED A SLOW STREAK INTO A BOOKING STREAK AND I FEEL REALLY EMPOWERED.
"Wendy is so generous with her knowledge and understanding of the deeper, inside work that goes into living a healthy, happy, well balanced actor life. Her daily inspirations mean so much to me...and I'm grateful for the custom guided meditation she wrote for me. I've turned a slow streak into a booking streak & I feel really empowered."