This past week has brought me to my knees so many times.
In light of the current events around racism and social injustice, I want to lovingly remind you that everything I create (whether it’s a program or a post) will always come from a space that stands for love, inclusion, diversity, unity, peace, compassion and acceptance.
And yet, I too, have so much more to learn on the topic of racism.
If you want to educate yourself and take action, but aren’t sure where to begin, a friend shared this helpful guide: Anti-Racism Resource List Click Here To View.
I know that racism is taught. I know that it begins in the home.
This past week, I watched my 8-year-old son prepare his speech for his online 3rd grade class.
In a sea of famous people – former Presidents, artists and musicians, scientists, and more – he chose Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
I cried at his timely choice and that he made it all on his own.
I cried helping him find quotes and talking about what they meant.
I cried explaining to him why I was crying, and though progress was made back then, there’s still so much more work to do.
I cried at the unity of 50 states and 18 countries coming together for one important cause.
I cried at the thought that his generation might actually experience (and become) the change that the world is asking for right now.
Change is upon us, and we are all feeling it.
Change is also messy, emotional, uncertain, painful + requires deep discomfort to really grow, learn and evolve.
So many feelings are coming up. We are seeing this on a global level and we are feeling it on an individual level.
As artists, I know we are feeling it, because that’s what we do. We feel. We empathize. We emote. We seek to understand the human condition.
But I also want to also remind you, that although we live in the digital age, you are not required to process your emotions in public.
Of course, I do hope you are taking time to process your emotions, release them in a way that is healthy and then do what feels best for you.
We all process things differently and we are all called to different actions that will drive us to different lanes.
Your lane might be writing.
Your lane might be donating.
Your lane might be protesting.
Your lane might be organizing.
Your lane might be volunteering.
Your lane might be painting a mural.
Your lane might be a dance or a song.
Your lane might be forwarding petitions.
Your lane might be talking to your children.
Your lane might be making a compelling video.
Your lane might be educating yourself in a new way.
Your lane might be tending to your own mental health.
Your lane might be doing what you can to stay sober today.
Some things to keep in mind:
1) Everyone’s lane is different.
2) Your lane might change from day to day.
3) Don’t feel guilty that you “should be” in all of the other lanes. It’s impossible.
4) Don’t worry about directing the traffic in the other lanes.
If we want to bring compassion, acceptance + love into the world, we must begin with ourselves.
So don’t judge yourself for whatever lane you are riding in on any given day.
As you soften your own self-judgment, and then let go of judging others for what they are doing or not doing, you are actually helping create the change that we are all seeking.
Be a beacon of love + light in whatever lane is calling you right now, and know that it does have a ripple effect.
And as the late, great Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”
This goes for how you treat yourself and others.
Be kind to yourself this week.
Be kind to others who don’t agree with you this week. (more…)
A quick shout out to all the beautiful mothers out there – Happy (Belated) Mother’s Day!
I am giving you a virtual hug to you today for all you are, all you give and all you do. (And you’ll love today’s video, because I’m sharing my 3 step system I use at home to help homeschool my kids without all the meltdowns (for myself and them).
And if you’re not a mom, you’ll find that today’s video will help you to set your day up in a way that makes you feel good and gives you the motivation to get stuff done.
If you have lost your mom, I know that Mother’s Day (and any day) can be tough. I lost my mom 10 years ago, so I get it. I know that your mother’s light shines through you and I do believe that when you think of her, it’s because she thought of you first.
If you’re an actor who is thinking “can I really have a career and a family?” I’m here to tell you 100%…YES. It requires an awesome partner, a calendar, flexibility and a sense of humor (for starters), but it is possible.
I do remember being pregnant with my first son, though not showing yet, and after a day of multiple auditions, I came home, cried on the floor + said to my husband, “How on earth am I going to do this when I have a baby?”
Like everything uncertain (pandemics, acting careers, motherhood) you will figure it out as you go.
This theme (and your response to it) got me thinking about how so much of our worth + value has been tied up for so long in what we produce, what we do, and what we accomplish.
Many of us have spent years hustling, and being “busy doing more” to show ourselves (and anyone we think might be watching) that we are of value.
Even in our world of “show-business,” it really is all about show. When you book a job, it seems the minute you wrap, everyone wants to know, what’s next? What do you have to “show” for yourself?
But now that the world has essentially “stopped all the doing,” and our industry is on a global pause, it’s given each of us a time to re-evaluate how we perceive ourselves + even redefine what success truly means.
Does success mean being productive to the point of burnout + overwhelm?
Does success mean splitting your energy in a million different ways?
Does success mean hustling + being everything to everyone?
What if you used this time to think about where you were putting your energy, how it was (or wasn’t) serving you + how you can reshape your life moving forward.
And for those of you who love a good to-do list, I thought I’d put one together for your well-being.
When you align with the inner knowing that you don’t have to be productive to be of value, you can then choose activities, people + projects that light you up, instead of using any of it to prove your worthiness.
Have you been bombarded with “how to be more productive” suggestions lately, while feeling guilty that you’re still in your pajamas at noon?
Have you been noticing all of the free opportunities lately, while simultaneously feeling overwhelmed on where to begin?
You’re not alone, and today I want to address it all from a different perspective.
Not the one that shames you into being busy doing more, but the one that invites you to step back + reframe it all from a place of freedom, choice, and love.
I know a lot of actors who are feeling very frustrated by all they feel they should be doing right now.
Does this look like your list of “should do’s” from the last few weeks?
I should submit to every online open casting call.
I should attend every free Zoom call for actors.
I should create more content for social media.
I should comment more on social media.
I should practice a new monologue.
I should hone my self-tape skills.
I should work on 5 new accents.
I should update my marketing.
I should be more productive.
I should start a podcast.
I should workout daily.
I should take a nap.
Who wouldn’t feel overwhelmed?
When you are telling yourself what you “should-do,” and it feels heavy, that’s a great indication that the action is coming from a place of fear and lack.
Ultimately, you are telling yourself that if you don’t do the things on your “should-do” list, you’re not making the most of your “quarantine time.”
This is a lie the ego wants you to believe.
When your action comes from an energy of fear, lack and self-doubt it will never result in success (during a global pandemic or anytime!)
Instead, this week, I invite you to replace any should with could, and see what happens?
When you reframe it in this way, then every idea becomes an invitation that you can choose to decline or accept, based on what feels good to you in the moment.
When you think of each “could-do” as an invitation, you regain control, because you get to(more…)
I celebrated a milestone birthday yesterday. (Yes, turning 30 is amazing! I mean 40. I mean 50!) What?
I feel 28 on the inside (and I rollerblade like I was 18), but as my late mother used to wisely tell me, at whatever age I was turning…”one day, you’ll wish you were this age.” So true.
So, today, I’m enjoying celebrating 5 decades on the planet + all I have learned, how I have grown, and who I have become along the way.
I’m also celebrating all of the love in my life, from my amazing readers like you, to my courageous students, to my closest friends and cherished family.
My husband put together a virtual party on Zoom for me this weekend + I was overcome with emotion seeing my beautiful friends, hearing their stories, well-wishes and toasts and simply feeling all of the love + connection.
It made me realize what really matters at the end of the day. It’s not the credits, the bookings or the awards.
It’s the love that flows from your heart to another person + back to you and how you make a difference in each other’s lives.
I BOOKED THE JOB! LISTENING TO CREATING POWERFUL AUDITIONS MADE A DIFFERENCE!
"Been listening to your "Creating Powerful Auditions" mp3 daily since purchasing about a week ago. Listened to it on the way to an audition...took a few moments before leaving my car to do the visualizations. I walked into the audition room feeling totally empowered, feeling light. I booked the job. I feel your album made a difference. Thank you, Wendy."
YOUR AFFIRMATIONS ALLOWED ME TO STEP OUT OF THE FEAR AND BE PRESENT IN THE ROOM.
"I just returned from an audition after listening to your guided meditations. Your affirmations allowed me to step out of the fear and be present in the room. As I waited for my audition I envisioned the session being successful and feeling empowered afterward. And it was and I did."
I'VE TURNED A SLOW STREAK INTO A BOOKING STREAK AND I FEEL REALLY EMPOWERED.
"Wendy is so generous with her knowledge and understanding of the deeper, inside work that goes into living a healthy, happy, well balanced actor life. Her daily inspirations mean so much to me...and I'm grateful for the custom guided meditation she wrote for me. I've turned a slow streak into a booking streak & I feel really empowered."
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SINCE LISTENING TO YOUR GUIDED MEDITATIONS, I BOOKED 2 FEATURE FILMS
"I bought Creating Powerful Auditions and I listen to it every morning. "Empowering Myself" is my absolute favorite meditation, sometimes I put it on repeat until I fully and truly feel every declaration. Since I've been listening to your guided meditations I booked my first feature film + also recently booked the lead role in my first horror film. Thank you for coming into my life!”
I BOOKED TWO ACTING GIGS IN THE SAME WEEK BECAUSE I HAD HER CD ON REPEAT!
"I listen to Wendy's guided meditations pretty much every chance I get. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have her amazing voice in my ear keeping me empowered, inspired + in the right mental space to persevere day in and day out. I booked two acting gigs in the same week because I had Wendy's Creating Powerful Auditions album on repeat. Thank you WENDY for your positivity + light!"