When you try to fix something, you fixate on it. You spend your time + energy focusing on the problem.
Albert Einstein once said, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”
So whatever feels like a problem this week, what if you simply reframed your thinking?
Better yet, instead of wishing things were different, what if you didn’t even see them as problems, but rather as the perfect next steps along your path?
I had an epiphany this week, in the midst of watching the Hollywood Reporter Roundtable discussion of dramatic actresses, (where Oprah and Nicole Kidman talk about being nervous and being scared of making fools of themselves), and I realized that thinking you will feel differently when you get to somewhere other than where you are right now, is an illusion.
And I just started asking this question…. What if everything was perfect exactly as it is right now? What if you didn’t need one thing to change for you to feel good?
What if the timing of all that is and isn’t happening for you was perfect? (more…)
Do you scroll through email and social media before you even get out of bed? It’s not uncommon, but it’s also not helping you to be productive.
When your morning habit is to tune into what everyone else is doing, needing and wanting, you lose the valuable connection with your own inner knowing.
This connection is very powerful + will guide you throughout your day, but it’s not found by scrolling through Instagram.
Social media will most likely lead you to comparing and despairing. (Not ideal for motivating yourself to take action, first thing in the morning.) Since your life is created by your habits, to wire yourself for success, you must (more…)
Memorial Day in the United States, is a day to remember the sacrifices that brave men + woman made to bring freedom to this country.
Growing up as the daughter of a Navy veteran, I was taught to have immense gratitude for the freedoms that we so easily take for granted.
My late father was a World War II Air-Sea Rescue pilot who helped to save those who were shot down in the Pacific Ocean. He was a hero to many, and especially to me. I lost him when I was 27.
When I volunteer in my son’s kindergarten class, I can barely get through The Pledge Of Allegiance without tearing up. Seeing a group of 5-year-olds embody joy, love and freedom, so purely, gives me hope for our future.
Last month I was asked to be the guest of honor and guest speaker at a charity event, back in my hometown of Northbrook, Illinois, a northern suburb of Chicago. (Basically where all the John Hughes movies were filmed.)
They wanted me to talk about how I went from performing in the musicals, plays, variety shows + choirs at Glenbrook South High School to becoming an established actress in Hollywood.
The more I thought about my journey from performing back high school to now having over 75 tv + film credits, I realized that the running theme along the way, was that I simply…kept going.
I kept going in the face of obstacles.
I kept going in the face of uncertainty.
I kept doing the things that scared me the most.
Ultimately, my success has come from mastering the fine art of dealing with failure, rejection + disappointment.
That is the real key to success.
There isn’t one successful person on the planet who hasn’t failed, been rejected or felt disappointment. It’s whether you allow it to (more…)
Ever find yourself feeling elated, excited + enthusiastic about life and then the next week find yourself feeling disappointed, sad or just crying in a heap?
This was me for the first 2 weeks of May…riding high and then feeling really low.
The highs are easy, right?
But, when the low point came, I found myself saying things like “You know that feeling bad isn’t helping. You have a great life. Snap out of it. What’s your problem?”
Then, I finally allowed myself to just not feel good, to lay on the couch with my dog and simply sob for all kinds of reasons and for no reason at all (while telling him he has it all figured out – after all, “dog” is “god” backwards + that’s gotta mean something!)
I allowed myself to embrace the situation as it was, to feel whatever it was I was feeling without telling myself I should feel better or that I should be doing something else (something other than sobbing with my dog while my sweet husband offered his support.)
And ya know what? I highly recommend it.
What I came to discover is that the way “out” of those disappointing, frustrating + sad moments is to go fully through them.
The best way to handle it all is to allow yourself to come unhinged + give yourself permission to not have to “get it together” on demand.
What do most of us do when we don’t want to deal with uncomfortable feelings?
We suppress them. We run from them. We distract ourselves. We check email. Check Facebook. Check Instagram. Check Twitter. Check Facebook Again. We scroll + comment. We rant + rave. We get more frustrated.
Or we distract ourselves in other ways. Some use eating, smoking, drinking. gambling, shopping, blaming, or shaming, all in a massive effort to not feel.
It’s a vicious cycle that may bring instant or temporary relief, but will never provide any long term gain.
Why? All of these activities get us to check out + tune out from what’s really going on.
What if, this week, instead of tuning out to what’s bothering you, you tuned in?
Instead of running from fear or sadness, or trying to suppress shame or disappointment, what if you embraced it + allowed it to be heard.
Here’s what you would d discover….
What if any time you experienced uncomfortable feelings (more…)
When you go into an audition, share your vulnerability, give it everything you’ve got + don’t get the part, it can be disappointing
When you put your heart and soul into it + think that one audition is the key to the kingdom and you don’t get it, it can be devastating.
You may think, “That was my big shot. I missed my boat. That was gonna change everything.”
And then what happens? When we are faced with this kind of rejection over and over, our ego focuses too critically on all the ways we have lost. Judging ourselves as wrong, or bad, or not good enough, which can leave us feeling disappointed, dejected and sometimes hopeless.
Your ego may try to convince you that you need to change something or fix something about you to be more “right” the next time (and it’s not to say we can’t learn from each experience, because there is always space for that), but best-selling author + psychologist Dr. Robert Holden says…
Isn’t that powerful? “No amount of self-improvement can make up for a lack of self-acceptance.”
So the real learning, in order to release rejection and let go of disappointment, comes from (more…)
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