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Are You Attached To Your Struggle Story?

Are you attached to your struggle story?

Do you tell yourself certain things every day about how things aren’t going for you?

Are these stories leaving you feeling stressed out, rushed, agitated, overwhelmed or frustrated?

I have definitely been there and understand if you feel this way.

But it wasn’t until I realized that, at the root of it all, there was a story I was telling myself that was causing all of my distress.

For a long time, my struggle story was, “I don’t have enough time.”

Being a working actress, a CEO, a wife and a mother with two young boys, I often felt like there wasn’t enough time in the day for all I had to do.

I used to have clocks in every room of my house (even the kids’ rooms), because I always needed to know the time.

Everything I did revolved around a schedule. Even reading to them at bedtime had to have a time limit.

One day, a feng shui expert came over and asked why I had clocks in the kids’ rooms.

I sheepishly told her, because I go back to doing my work after they go to sleep, and I need to make sure I have enough time.

She pointed out that this story was not only making me less present with my kids, but that it wasn’t helping anyone (especially me) relax.

As scary as it was for me, I decided to remove the clocks and change my story.

I started telling myself:
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Too Hard On Yourself? 3 Steps To Feeling Better

It’s Labor Day here in the US, so I’m making this short + sweet today. (Hope you’re taking a break from work today too.)

As you begin September, start noticing the story you are telling yourself – about your looks, your career, your relationships, your life.

Is it kind? If not, it’s time to change the story.

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It’s so easy to judge and label ourselves (and others) and attach all kinds of meaning to what is or isn’t going on at any given moment.

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10 Mantras That Increased My Happiness (And Bookings!)

Have you been trying really hard to make your acting dreams happen this year? Are you feeling overworked and overwhelmed? I get it.

I used to think that working harder would produce better results, but ultimately that thinking often led to me feeling resentful and exhausted.

(While I watched those who didn’t work nearly as hard as I reap all kinds of rewards.) Can you relate?

So, now, whenever I find myself pushing to make things happen, I remind myself that there is power in ease, flow + letting go.

In fact, just last month, when I had a quiet few weeks with no auditions, I reminded myself to let go of how I think it all should go + what I think should be showing up right now.

Instead I used the time to clear the clutter, update my online presence, play with my kids, swim in the ocean and trust in the future I could not see. (This guided meditation helped me)

And what happened? Auditions came in.

And in those auditions, I brought that sense of ease, flow + letting go with me, and it resulted in my latest feature film booking (as one of the lead roles).

It also brought back a voice-over campaign (where I was the initial voice, but then had to re-audition to get the job back.)

I auditioned again + I got the job back for multiple TV spots over several recording sessions. (But, wow, talk about letting go in the process!)

So, I hope these examples help you to relax about whatever is or isn’t showing up for you right now + help you realize how much power lies in letting go.

Here are 5 graphics I created for you of mantras I have been telling myself lately that have helped me to increase my happiness (+ my bookings.)

Feel free to screenshot your favorite + make it your new screensaver, or share them on your own social media.
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Want better results? Do this…

The more I look back on the manifestations I’ve had in my life, whether it has been in my acting career, building relationships, creating abundance or even getting married and having a family, there has been a through line, a pattern, that has helped me over and over again.

That is one of ease, flow and letting go.

Whenever I tried to “white knuckle” the Universe into giving me what I wanted when I wanted it, I was not only acting from my ego, but ultimately creating more resistance on my own path. (This took me years to understand, so hopefully I’m giving you a shortcut here.)

I now know, I don’t have to do it all alone.

I am supported by something bigger than myself, and when I surrender to that power (whatever you wish to call it)  I am always guided to a higher plane.

It has been through this deeper awareness through mindful meditation (or guided meditation, which has been easier for me), that I have come to know + trust that there has been a divine order to my life and how it is unfolding.

When I am carefree, and flexible with what is (or isn’t) showing up, I am signaling the Universe to co-create for my highest good.

The same is true for you.

Deepak Chopra explains that when you create ease + flow within, “you are then no longer bound by the ego’s insecurities + cravings.”

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“The more detached you are from the results, the better the results.” – Deepak Chopra. 

It’s not that we have to let go or lose sight of our desires or our intentions, but when we let go of our ego’s timelines (more…)

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What To Do When Fear Stops You

Have you been allowing fear to stop you from taking action lately?

Do you convince yourself that it’s too late, that you’re not ready or that you don’t know where to begin?

Guess what? That’s just your ego’s way of trying to keep you safe + in your comfort zone.

When you align with your true self, you access a power within you that can overcome any fear.

When you seek this alignment first, taking action becomes easier. (Most people just keep taking more action without adjusting their thoughts).

To manifest your desires, you need to engage in both high vibration thought and action.
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Why Alignment (Then Action) Is The Key To Your Success

Happy July! Can you believe the year is half over?

No matter what you have or haven’t “done” so far this year, I want you to know one thing…

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There is nothing outside of your ability to accomplish it, but when you force yourself to take action from a place of lack-minded thinking, your efforts will often provide lackluster results.

There is so much more power available to you, when you choose to align your mind first, and then take action from this newly inspired place (and all that procrastinating ends!)

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The Real Key To True Happiness

I’ve been pausing more lately, without distraction from devices.

I’ve been listening to birds sing in my backyard, marveling at the freckles on my children’s faces and enjoying mindful moments where I deeply and sincerely appreciate my life.

And it seems the more I do this, the happier I become and the more unexpected wonderful surprises start to show up. (In the form of auditions, helpful people + exciting offers).

So, just for today, give yourself the gift of a mindful moment. How?
Put the phone down.
Go outside.
Take in the scenery.
Love yourself, right where you are.
Just for today, let go of needing anything to be different.
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Let go of striving and pushing to change where you are. (more…)

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Why You Need To Take A (Guilt-Free) Break

Last week, I had an actress in my private Spotlight Club community admit that she was struggling with stress and feeling a little burnt out.

She was ready for a break and wanted to take a day to herself, but was feeling really guilty about it. Ever been there?

Do you ever tell yourself these things:

If I’m not working 24/7 on my career, then success won’t come to me.
If I’m not putting in a lot of extra effort, then I don’t deserve success.
If I take a break, it feels like I’m just being lazy.

Do you realize, that these are all just false beliefs that you’ve been telling yourself?

When your mind, body + soul are asking for a break, that is because (more…)

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How You Can Start Loving It All (Even If You Have The Post-Oscar Blues)

Did you watch the Oscars last night? No matter how it left you feeling, I’m hoping today’s post will uplift you.

Last night, my husband + I were invited to a black tie Oscar viewing party at The Hollywood Museum + I had the dream of wearing a gown from an amazing designer who creates handmade works of art.

Follow me here on instagram to see the pics.

And this morning, I’m back on the set, shooting another episode of a wonderful TV show I worked on last week + am feeling so grateful to do what I love, while also inspiring other actors along the way.

I want you to know that just 4 weeks ago, after having some great auditions and not really booking anything, I was feeling pretty down about how 2018 was going.

I wanted to feel better, but there were days, where I just couldn’t get out of my own funk + lift myself up. Can you relate?
Well, it got me thinking….

It seems we search for ways to feel good, and often run in fear of feeling anything less than what we deem as “positive emotions.”

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What if every emotion you feel throughout your day was here to awaken you?

And what if you could start loving it all?

We often spend our time judging, criticizing + labeling ourselves + our emotions + then adding to the story of what it all means.
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Where To Focus When Nothing Is Going On…..

When there are slow patches in your career, do you go down the dark rabbit hole of worry + self-doubt?

Do you start obsessing about how you did on your last audition or wondering if you’ll ever get another one?

I know. I’ve been there.

But, when you shift your focus from what is not working to what’s going right in your life, things will begin to shift in your favor.

This year started off kinda quiet for me (well, except all of my free trainings for actors!), and it would have been easy for me to start ranting + raving….

“What are my reps doing?”
“Where are my auditions?”
“What am I missing out on?”

But asking myself those questions only produces answers (and feelings) rooted in lack and fear.

So instead, I focused all of my energy on helping other actors (like you) succeed, while getting into a mental head-space of radical appreciation for what was working in my life.

Why would this matter?

Within the next week, I ended up getting 3 amazing auditions, including a request to read for a different role on a project I had already been in for late last year.

(Something I didn’t even know would come back around, and could have easily spent a lot of wasted time examining what I might have not done “right” at that initial audition.)

And then, a wonderful booking came in (which I can’t give details about yet) and an invitation to attend a red carpet Oscar party.

And all from shifting my focus + how it made me feel when nothing was going on. That’s it.

Sounds simple, right? It Is, but many actors choose to take the struggling route of complaining + blaming + then berating themselves. Then they spend their days busying themselves with “doing more” from this space of lack.

What they don’t realize, is that it’s hamster wheel that just produces more of the same.

So, what if, no matter how things look right now, you told yourself this:

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Instead of spending anytime criticizing or berating myself today,

I marvel at all I’ve done + who I’ve become along the way.

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