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15 Lessons I’ve Learned On My Journey Juggling Career + Family

I know we’re all trying to find some balance these days, whether you’re juggling parenting, homeschooling your kids, self-taping, your acting career, your day job, finding a new day job or just finding your sanity lately.

I was recently asked to be a guest speaker in Women In Film’s upcoming Speaker Series on Family Ties: Finding Your Balance While Juggling Kids + A Career In The Entertainment Industry.  I’ll be joining show-runners, directors, producer, writers and actors for an empowering conversation about balancing it all, and as I was thinking about it, today’s post flowed out of me.  

I wanted to share it with you, so you can apply these lessons to your own life. 

(And if you’re not a parent, you can swap “my kids” and add in “myself,” and anytime I reference “they” just replace it with “I,” so essentially you’re parenting yourself).

It’s definitely been a rollercoaster ride, but I wouldn’t change it for anything.  Along the way, I’ve learned to celebrate progress over perfection as well as these insights.  Enjoy!


15 Lessons I’ve Learned On My Journey Juggling Career + Family

1.     When I show my kids what it looks like to dream big,
they learn that anything is possible.

2.    When I show my kids what it looks like to fail + get back up again, 
they learn to not be afraid to try new things.

3.     When I show my kids what it looks like to be sad or disappointed, 
they learn that it’s okay to express themselves.

4.     When I show my kids what it looks like to cry, 
they learn that all emotions are energy in motion + meant to be felt.

5.     When I show my kids what it looks like to be a mother, an actress, a
wife, an entrepreneur,  they learn that they, too, don’t only have to be
just one thing.

6.     When I show my kids what it looks like to do your best + still not get the
job, they learn what resilience looks like.

7.     When I show my kids what it looks like to want something + have it not
work out immediately the way you want it, they learn what patience +
perseverance looks like.

8.     When I show my kids what it looks like to take care of myself, 
they learn to value their own well-being.

9.     When I show my kids what it looks like to pursue excellence, 
they learn to raise the bar for themselves.

10.  When I show my kids what it looks like to put the phone down, be
present, spend time, to truly listen to what they have to say, they learn
that they are valuable.

11.  When I show my kids what it looks like to be scared, uncertain or
fearful, but to take risks anyway, they learn to embrace the adventure
of life.

12.  When I show my kids what it looks like to find joy in helping others, 
they learn compassion.

13.  When I show my kids what it looks like to find the beauty in nature, 
they learn that abundance abounds.

14.  When I show my kids what it looks like to find the good in the toughest
of situations, they learn the power of a positive mindset.

15.  When I show my kids what it looks like to be kind to those who are
different than you, they learn empathy.

We all want the best for our kids, but it’s in showing them that it’s okay to fail, to be disappointed, to risk, to get hurt, to get rejected, to fall down, but to also always get up every single time, that we ultimately teach them to rise.

It’s funny, as I put this list together, I also realize that my kids have really been my best teachers.

I hope this helps you find some balance today with all you’re doing, embrace the rollercoaster ride, and also know that you can absolutely juggle both career and family.


Come join us for more on this conversation about being a working parent in the industry. RSVP HERE for the Women In Film Speaker Series: Family Ties: Finding Your Balance While Juggling Kids + A Career In The Entertainment Industry. It’s free and virtual.

Let me know in the comments below, which lesson spoke to you most today.

Here’s to a week of finding balance through it all.

-Wendy

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5 Elements For Feeling Bliss

I know we often want the conditions to change so we can start feeling better.

As actors, we often spend a lot of time “hoping we will feel better when…we get a callback, we get a new agent, or when we book the job.”

Yes, I’ve done that too.

And now, there seems to be a collective “hoping we will feel better when….this pandemic is finally over.”

The reason this way of thinking makes us feel so powerless, is because we are allowing the external conditions (the callback, the agent, the job, the pandemic), to dictate how we feel.

Sure, we’d all like to be back working (and I’d love for my kids to return to in-person school next week), but I am reminded during these times, that we do have the power to choose our focus.  And it is our focus that determines how we feel.

Think about it.  Have you ever been stuck in traffic and noticed one driver who is angry and frustrated and another driver who is singing and dancing along to their music?  Same situation. Different focus. DIfferent feeling. 

I’ve had my own share of ups and downs these past few months, but in sitting down to record this month’s guided meditation for my Spotlight Club + Community, this new math equation came to me.  An equation for feeling bliss, right now.  (Yes, even among all kinds of conditions that I may not like).

This equation has reminded me that it’s not about waiting for the perfect conditions to appear, but having a process for finding the light even on my darkest days. I hope it helps you too.

Which element of this equation might you focus on more today?  

Imagine how it would feel to practice all five of these elements, every single day for a week. 

I’ll give you a sneak peek into what will happen:

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How To Create Momentum Amidst Uncertainty

Have you been feeling off your game lately or finding it hard to focus? I get it.

What usually stops us from moving forward on any given day might feel like external circumstances, but ultimately it all begins within.

It’s understandable that in times of uncertainty, you might wake up in the morning and one of the following is going on in your mind.

  1. You’re filled with fear.
  2. You’re failing to focus.
  3. You’re fueled by false beliefs.

Why? The mind is rooted in limitation + fear.

But the heart is rooted in expansion + love.

When we are born, we are all heart + pure love, but as we get older, we start operating from the mind.

Over time, that limited mind voice gets louder and the heart voice becomes a whisper we almost can’t hear.

You want to create momentum in your life or your career, but all too often, your action gets drowned out by mental logic, other’s opinions + historical thinking about how it’s gone for you in the past.

That is what stops you. It’s what stops all of us from moving forward.

I’ll show you how it works….and you can turn up the volume of the heart today.

Click the video below + learn 9 ways your limited mind is keeping you stuck, and what your expanded heart really wants you to know. (more…)

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Being A Beacon Of Light + Love ❤️

This past week has brought me to my knees so many times.

In light of the current events around racism and social injustice, I want to lovingly remind you that everything I create (whether it’s a program or a post) will always come from a space that stands for love, inclusion, diversity, unity, peace, compassion and acceptance.

And yet, I too, have so much more to learn on the topic of racism.

If you want to educate yourself and take action, but aren’t sure where to begin, a friend shared this helpful guide: Anti-Racism Resource List Click Here To View.

I know that racism is taught.  I know that it begins in the home.

This past week, I watched my 8-year-old son prepare his speech for his online 3rd grade class.

In a sea of famous people – former Presidents, artists and musicians, scientists, and more – he chose Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

I cried at his timely choice and that he made it all on his own.
I cried helping him find quotes and talking about what they meant.
I cried explaining to him why I was crying, and though progress was made back then, there’s still so much more work to do.
I cried at the unity of 50 states and 18 countries coming together for one important cause.
I cried at the thought that his generation might actually experience (and become) the change that the world is asking for right now.

Change is upon us, and we are all feeling it.

Change is also messy, emotional, uncertain, painful + requires deep discomfort to really grow, learn and evolve.

So many feelings are coming up.  We are seeing this on a global level and we are feeling it on an individual level.

As artists, I know we are feeling it, because that’s what we do. We feel. We empathize.  We emote.  We seek to understand the human condition.

But I also want to also remind you, that although we live in the digital age, you are not required to process your emotions in public.

Of course, I do hope you are taking time to process your emotions, release them in a way that is healthy and then do what feels best for you.

We all process things differently and we are all called to different actions that will drive us to different lanes.

Your lane might be writing.
Your lane might be donating.
Your lane might be protesting.
Your lane might be organizing.
Your lane might be volunteering.
Your lane might be painting a mural.
Your lane might be a dance or a song.
Your lane might be forwarding petitions.
Your lane might be talking to your children.
Your lane might be making a compelling video.
Your lane might be educating yourself in a new way.
Your lane might be tending to your own mental health.
Your lane might be doing what you can to stay sober today.

Some things to keep in mind:
1) Everyone’s lane is different.
2) Your lane might change from day to day.
3) Don’t feel guilty that you “should be” in all of the other lanes.  It’s impossible.
4) Don’t worry about directing the traffic in the other lanes.

If we want to bring compassion, acceptance + love into the world, we must begin with ourselves.  

So don’t judge yourself for whatever lane you are riding in on any given day.

As you soften your own self-judgment, and then let go of judging others for what they are doing or not doing, you are actually helping create the change that we are all seeking.

Be a beacon of love + light in whatever lane is calling you right now, and know that it does have a ripple effect.

And as the late, great Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”

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This goes for how you treat yourself and others.

Be kind to yourself this week.

Be kind to others who don’t agree with you this week.
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Your Well-Being To-Do List (Printable Gift For You)

I’m so glad last week’s post helped so many of you turn the “should do’s” into “could do’s” and serve to let go of the guilt or shame of “not being more productive.”

Read it here:
How To Let Go Of The Guilt Of Not Being More Productive (During A Global Pandemic) 

This theme (and your response to it) got me thinking about how so much of our worth + value has been tied up for so long in what we produce, what we do, and what we accomplish.

Many of us have spent years hustling, and being “busy doing more” to show ourselves (and anyone we think might be watching) that we are of value.

Even in our world of “show-business,” it really is all about show.  When you book a job, it seems the minute you wrap, everyone wants to know, what’s next?  What do you have to “show” for yourself?

But now that the world has essentially “stopped all the doing,” and our industry is on a global pause, it’s given each of us a time to re-evaluate how we perceive ourselves + even redefine what success truly means.

Does success mean being productive to the point of burnout + overwhelm?
Does success mean splitting your energy in a million different ways?
Does success mean hustling + being everything to everyone?

What if you used this time to think about where you were putting your energy, how it was (or wasn’t) serving you + how you can reshape your life moving forward.

And for those of you who love a good to-do list, I thought I’d put one together for your well-being.

When you align with the inner knowing that you don’t have to be productive to be of value, you can then choose activities, people + projects that light you up, instead of using any of it to prove your worthiness.

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Dealing With Tough Emotions (And Answering The Call)

If you’re feeling all kinds of emotions come up during these uncertain times, know that you are not alone.

I’ve been inspired by many messages lately, and wanted to share this insight with you from French philosopher, Pascal.  He stated this back in the 1600’s (centuries before the internet, of course)…

“All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”

Quetyly Alone In A Room (more…)

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The Two Ways To Approach Your Life + Career: Which will you choose?

This week begins the 3rd month of 2020. How has your energy been lately?  Have you been feeling inspired + motivated or lethargic + unproductive?

Have you been allowing outer circumstances + events to dictate how you feel each day or have you been aligning your mind + getting out ahead of it all, before you even leave your home?

To be on a creative path, is to be on a spiritual path.  The good news, is you have more creative control of your life than you might think, (and that all limitation is self-imposed).

So often we think that life is just happening to us, and we forget that our energy plays a vital role in the unfolding of it all.

Best-selling author, Dr. Joe Dispenza says,

“When it comes down to it, there are 2 ways to approach our lives: either as the victims to our lives or the creators of our lives. To live as the victim is to live within the limited belief system that everything in our outer world is happening to us.

Simply put, when things are good, you feel good. When things are bad, you feel bad. That’s the polarized world of victim consciousness in a nutshell.

Creative consciousness, on the other hand, is the awareness that when you feel joy, love, or gratitude before your creation is made manifest—& you combine that energy of joy, love, or gratitude with the intent of new information—it is that elevated frequency that can carry that thought.”

Quotes like this always inspire me so much.

When you learn how to choose your thoughts + emotions, you become a master of your life.

And what happens, is you begin to see yourself as infinite intelligence sees you.

In fact, here is what infinite intelligence would tell you today…

You matter.
You belong.
You are important.
You are powerful.
You are ready.
Your time is now.
You playing small does not serve the world.
There will never be another you.
You have many gifts to share.
You have many amazing experiences ahead.
You are worthy of all of life’s beautiful blessings.
You are ready to receive.

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I hope this touches you today.

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How To Make A Big Shift Before The Holidays

Sometimes the simplest shift can yield the greatest change, when we really commit ourselves.

If you want to make a big shift in your life + your career before the holidays, here are 2 quick solutions…

1) Come learn How To Have A Success Breakthrough in my complimentary Live Masterclass where I’ll show you how to create bigger results with far less effort.

Click here to see me LIVE in Los Angeles (only 2 dates left + filling fast)  
Click here to see me LIVE in Vancouver (it’s almost full)  
Click here to see me LIVE in your city. (get on the VIP list now) 
Click here to attend the ONLINE version in January 2020  

I love helping actors break through barriers + feel a major shift in under 90 minutes.

“I was feeling a hollowness of something missing in my life + career when I went to see Wendy live.  Not only did she speak to my soul, but I couldn’t believe how a quickly things turned around for me.”    – Denisse O.

“For people who are lucky enough to see Wendy live, her free masterclass changes lives.  It just does. She meets you where you are, shows you the walls that have been blocking you, and then lovingly helps you to break them down.”
 – Janna C.

2) Recommit this month to the spiritual practice of daily gratitude.

So often we forget that no matter how things have gone for us lately, we can begin again….today.

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“Today + tomorrow can be very different from yesterday, if you can let yesterday go + focus on today. Today + tomorrow are about your now vibration + you have complete control over that. Look for things to feel good about + watch how everything in your life will unfold to reflect that good feeling vibration.”
– Abraham-Hicks

Nothing is more important than feeling good. It’s actually why you want everything you are seeking, for the feelings they will bring.

But the real secret to experiencing more joy now while also manifesting your desires, is not waiting them to arrive to feel better, but feeling good along the way.

And the fastest way to feel better is through the simple yet effective practice of gratitude.

Best selling author Joe Dispenza states, “The longer you feel gratitude, the more you’re drawing your new future to you because gratitude means it has already happened. Gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership. The latest research in neuroscience shows that when you close your eyes and begin to think about your future and embrace the emotions you are going to feel when that event happens. That you are actually installing the neurological circuitry of that experience in your brain.”

So practicing daily gratitude is not only for the benefits or rewiring your brain, but nothing puts you in a better state of joy, than (more…)

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Been Tough On Yourself? 5 Ways To Make A Shift Now

Have you been hard on yourself lately? I get it. We all go down that rabbit hole in one way or another at different times.

But I want you to start this week shifting where you are choosing to focus + how you are choosing to see yourself. (Yes, it all begins within).

In fact, I know if you make a few simple shifts this week, you’ll end up feeling better + you’ll actually begin to light up in a different way.

Sometimes the smallest shift creates the biggest result, so practice this today…

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If you’re wondering, “How do I do that?” Here are 5 ways to be easy, gentle + more loving with yourself. (more…)

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How To Invite In Unlimited Possibilities

Often we can be so focused on what we want, that we forget that we live in a world of infinite possibilities.

When we get an audition + feel right for the role, it’s easy to let our minds become attached to wanting the job.

But when we do that, we are actually cutting ourselves off from all other possibilities that are lining up for us.

And in doing so we start gripping + pushing, an energy that will never help you book anything.

I came across this amazing quote last week from the late, great Wayne Dyer + thought it was so fitting for actors.

“Have a mind that is open to everything + attached to nothing.”

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What a wonderful space to live. What a peaceful way to operate. What a direct line to your own joy.

It’s not to say you let go of your desires, but you let go of trying to control how or when they will show up.

And it in the letting go, you find (more…)

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