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What’s Really Getting In Your Way….(And How Let Go + Fly)

To invite in the new, we must let go of the old. (Even when it feels scary + we are uncertain of the outcome).

I’ve had to do this in a big way this year.

I’ve done a lot of inner work on letting go of my own lingering limiting beliefs + the outer work of taking actions that were way outside my comfort zone, in order to fly.

If you haven’t heard, I’m now on the ballot and in the running for an Emmy nomination.

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Emmy nomination-round voting closes in one week.  (Thank you for the outpouring of well-wishes + support.  It is so deeply appreciated!)

If you are a Television Academy member, I hope you’ll consider me when voting for “Outstanding Guest Actress In A Comedy Series” for my work on Atypical.

Click here to watch the clips (or to share the love).

This entire experience got me thinking about how we transform our lives and careers.  When does that happen and how do we do it?

When a caterpillar becomes a beautiful butterfly, it goes through a radical transformation process, one that is inherently uncomfortable.

But the caterpillar does not fight the chrysalis, nor does it resist any discomfort that arises inside as it sheds its familiar home.

Instead, to invite in the radical transformation that happens within its own protective casing, it must surrender fully to the discomfort.

The only way the caterpillar can end up flying is to allow the discomfort, to move beyond its protective casing, to transform itself + then spread its glorious wings for the very first time.

Metaphorically, leaving the familiar + stepping into the unknown with its wings wide open is how the butterfly first takes flight.

Ancient Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu declares: “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”

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If we can use this process in nature as a guide for our own metamorphosis, then whenever any discomfort arises, we can (more…)

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3 Steps To Getting Better Results

Ever feel like this? Exhausted, not booking, a bit lost or unsure, and maybe heading down a dark rabbit hole of negative thinking…

Even though you know better?
Even though you’re trying to stay positive?
Even though you’re trying keep the faith?

Does it seem like the more you try to do that, the more you feel like you are entering a dark tunnel without the light?

This was exactly the way one of my students admitted to feeling recently + she was actually thrilled to find out she wasn’t alone.

Not only did other actors feel this way, I told her that she basically described my February!

Yes, that’s right. I have plenty of down days too.

I had a month of great auditions + no bookings. I was definitely wondering, “where’s mine?”

I had assumed that the show I had been recurring on (Atypical on Netflix) was back in production, but I hadn’t heard anything about returning for another season.

And when things aren’t showing up the way you’d like, that dark hole can feel like it goes on forever, right?

So what do you do?

I’m all for feeling your feelings + going through them, instead of slapping a smiley face sticker over your pain.

So just know that when you are feeling down, you’re not alone. Reach out + talk to a friend. (Most likely an actor you know is feeling the same way).

Then, remind yourself that tomorrow is a new day + treat it as a blank white canvas.

When you shift your focus, it will help shift how you feel, and ultimately effect what you do.

And as you take a new action, from a better feeling place, the light in that dark tunnel will begin to appear.
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Turning Your Flaws Into Gold

Happy April!  Happy Spring!  Are you ready for a new beginning?

Are you ready to really step into the spotlight in your life + your career?

What does it take to truly shine like the brightest star?

From images we see on social media or in magazines, it often looks like perfection + flawlessness.

But if we are to tell stories that reflect humanity, then flawlessness and perfection are not a true reflection of who we really are.

There are many other stories that needs to be told.

So what if stepping into the spotlight in your life + career, meant stepping up + owning your imperfections and your flaws, not waiting to be ready or perfect or flawless, but showing up + rising up in a way that lets others see the real you…now?

What if the way was through the consciousness of love, where there are no limits?

In the Japanese culture broken objects are often repaired with gold.  The flaw is seen as a unique piece of the object’s history, which adds to it’s beauty.

What if stepping into the spotlight meant taking all the flaws that you might try to hide (or the parts of you that may feel broken) and instead you loved them, revealed them + celebrated them?

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Staying Calm Amidst Chaos

In the rush and noise of our busy lives, from the alerts on our phones, our computers, social media to all of the daily requests + interactions (not to mention the mid-term elections in the U.S. and the holidays drawing near), we must take time to create a feeling of calm amidst the chaos.

Our minds want to stay busy defining who we are, evaluating what we’ve done, adding meaning to events, and then letting us know (sometimes all day long) how we are falling short.

It is in finding stillness within + calming the chaos in the active mind, that your true image is reflected back to you.
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It is in that stillness that your intuition is accessible, tension is released, and well-being abounds. (more…)

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How To Expand Into Your Best Self: 20 Things To Say Yes To Today

When we are looking to expand into all that we want to become in our lives + our careers, sometimes the path ahead can feel daunting + uncertain.

Our inner critic will convince us it’s safer to stay where we are, or even turn around, then to forge ahead on the unknown path.

But what if all it took to move forward was a simple inner mental shift.

Where instead of listening to the inner critic’s voice that says….

…I can’t, it won’t happen, it’s not possible, it isn’t hear yet, so it must not be coming, etc.

What if, instead, we simply said YES to ourselves more often.

Here are 20 Things To Say YES To Today to get you going again on your path…
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This Is Getting In The Way Of Your Success

You may have heard (or seen) that Will Smith bungee jumped out of a helicopter over the Grand Canyon on his 50th birthday. Just before jumping he said, “Anytime I’m scared of something, I feel compelled to attack it.”

His words and actions have always inspire me.

Doing the things that have scared me over the years have definitely expanded my life in wonderful ways.

One of my favorite truth bombs he shared was this:
You can’t experience the joy that is intended for you in life if you don’t go. Don’t hesitate. Commit.
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So what gets in most people’s way of going for the life (and career) that they want?
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10 Lies You Tell Yourself About Your Acting Career (+ How To Flip The Script)

You most likely got into this business because you love storytelling.

Inspiring and entertaining people through storytelling is an ancient ritual that has been passed down through the ages and to be part of bringing a story to life is a magical art form.

But today, I want to talk about the story you tell yourself.

In fact, the reason most actors don’t succeed has nothing to do with external factors.

It’s in the internal story you tell yourself about what is possible.

You know, those stories you have on repeat in your mind after being in this business awhile (months, years, or maybe even decades).
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Are You Attached To Your Struggle Story?

Are you attached to your struggle story?

Do you tell yourself certain things every day about how things aren’t going for you?

Are these stories leaving you feeling stressed out, rushed, agitated, overwhelmed or frustrated?

I have definitely been there and understand if you feel this way.

But it wasn’t until I realized that, at the root of it all, there was a story I was telling myself that was causing all of my distress.

For a long time, my struggle story was, “I don’t have enough time.”

Being a working actress, a CEO, a wife and a mother with two young boys, I often felt like there wasn’t enough time in the day for all I had to do.

I used to have clocks in every room of my house (even the kids’ rooms), because I always needed to know the time.

Everything I did revolved around a schedule. Even reading to them at bedtime had to have a time limit.

One day, a feng shui expert came over and asked why I had clocks in the kids’ rooms.

I sheepishly told her, because I go back to doing my work after they go to sleep, and I need to make sure I have enough time.

She pointed out that this story was not only making me less present with my kids, but that it wasn’t helping anyone (especially me) relax.

As scary as it was for me, I decided to remove the clocks and change my story.

I started telling myself:
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Too Hard On Yourself? 3 Steps To Feeling Better

It’s Labor Day here in the US, so I’m making this short + sweet today. (Hope you’re taking a break from work today too.)

As you begin September, start noticing the story you are telling yourself – about your looks, your career, your relationships, your life.

Is it kind? If not, it’s time to change the story.

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It’s so easy to judge and label ourselves (and others) and attach all kinds of meaning to what is or isn’t going on at any given moment.

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10 Mantras That Increased My Happiness (And Bookings!)

Have you been trying really hard to make your acting dreams happen this year? Are you feeling overworked and overwhelmed? I get it.

I used to think that working harder would produce better results, but ultimately that thinking often led to me feeling resentful and exhausted.

(While I watched those who didn’t work nearly as hard as I reap all kinds of rewards.) Can you relate?

So, now, whenever I find myself pushing to make things happen, I remind myself that there is power in ease, flow + letting go.

In fact, just last month, when I had a quiet few weeks with no auditions, I reminded myself to let go of how I think it all should go + what I think should be showing up right now.

Instead I used the time to clear the clutter, update my online presence, play with my kids, swim in the ocean and trust in the future I could not see. (This guided meditation helped me)

And what happened? Auditions came in.

And in those auditions, I brought that sense of ease, flow + letting go with me, and it resulted in my latest feature film booking (as one of the lead roles).

It also brought back a voice-over campaign (where I was the initial voice, but then had to re-audition to get the job back.)

I auditioned again + I got the job back for multiple TV spots over several recording sessions. (But, wow, talk about letting go in the process!)

So, I hope these examples help you to relax about whatever is or isn’t showing up for you right now + help you realize how much power lies in letting go.

Here are 5 graphics I created for you of mantras I have been telling myself lately that have helped me to increase my happiness (+ my bookings.)

Feel free to screenshot your favorite + make it your new screensaver, or share them on your own social media.
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