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How To Expand Into Your Best Self: 20 Things To Say Yes To Today

When we are looking to expand into all that we want to become in our lives + our careers, sometimes the path ahead can feel daunting + uncertain.

Our inner critic will convince us it’s safer to stay where we are, or even turn around, then to forge ahead on the unknown path.

But what if all it took to move forward was a simple inner mental shift.

Where instead of listening to the inner critic’s voice that says….

…I can’t, it won’t happen, it’s not possible, it isn’t hear yet, so it must not be coming, etc.

What if, instead, we simply said YES to ourselves more often.

Here are 20 Things To Say YES To Today to get you going again on your path…
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Today, I open myself up to my own expansion and…. (more…)

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This Is Getting In The Way Of Your Success

You may have heard (or seen) that Will Smith bungee jumped out of a helicopter over the Grand Canyon on his 50th birthday. Just before jumping he said, “Anytime I’m scared of something, I feel compelled to attack it.”

His words and actions have always inspire me.

Doing the things that have scared me over the years have definitely expanded my life in wonderful ways.

One of my favorite truth bombs he shared was this:
You can’t experience the joy that is intended for you in life if you don’t go. Don’t hesitate. Commit.
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So what gets in most people’s way of going for the life (and career) that they want?
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10 Mantras That Increased My Happiness (And Bookings!)

Have you been trying really hard to make your acting dreams happen this year? Are you feeling overworked and overwhelmed? I get it.

I used to think that working harder would produce better results, but ultimately that thinking often led to me feeling resentful and exhausted.

(While I watched those who didn’t work nearly as hard as I reap all kinds of rewards.) Can you relate?

So, now, whenever I find myself pushing to make things happen, I remind myself that there is power in ease, flow + letting go.

In fact, just last month, when I had a quiet few weeks with no auditions, I reminded myself to let go of how I think it all should go + what I think should be showing up right now.

Instead I used the time to clear the clutter, update my online presence, play with my kids, swim in the ocean and trust in the future I could not see. (This guided meditation helped me)

And what happened? Auditions came in.

And in those auditions, I brought that sense of ease, flow + letting go with me, and it resulted in my latest feature film booking (as one of the lead roles).

It also brought back a voice-over campaign (where I was the initial voice, but then had to re-audition to get the job back.)

I auditioned again + I got the job back for multiple TV spots over several recording sessions. (But, wow, talk about letting go in the process!)

So, I hope these examples help you to relax about whatever is or isn’t showing up for you right now + help you realize how much power lies in letting go.

Here are 5 graphics I created for you of mantras I have been telling myself lately that have helped me to increase my happiness (+ my bookings.)

Feel free to screenshot your favorite + make it your new screensaver, or share them on your own social media.
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The Real Key To True Happiness

I’ve been pausing more lately, without distraction from devices.

I’ve been listening to birds sing in my backyard, marveling at the freckles on my children’s faces and enjoying mindful moments where I deeply and sincerely appreciate my life.

And it seems the more I do this, the happier I become and the more unexpected wonderful surprises start to show up. (In the form of auditions, helpful people + exciting offers).

So, just for today, give yourself the gift of a mindful moment. How?
Put the phone down.
Go outside.
Take in the scenery.
Love yourself, right where you are.
Just for today, let go of needing anything to be different.
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Let go of striving and pushing to change where you are. (more…)

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Today Is A Gift

Two weeks ago, my in-laws came to town from New York for a wonderful visit. It was idyllic, actually.

We ate brunch at Paradise Cove and relaxed on the beach in Malibu, while they enjoyed watching our kids surf.

We had long + lovely outdoor dinner conversations in our backyard, as the kids laughed and played in the pool.

They sat in our soothing spa, soaked up the sun while napping on the lounge chairs, and then took the kids to Toys R Us for a special shopping spree – grandparent style.

My mother-in-law said so many times what a perfect weekend it was, and thanked me for the blessing I have been in her son’s life.

She even told me that she looked at a picture of my own late mother on our bookshelf, and thanked her for bringing me into the world.

I know it was a soul to soul moment, where they connected, mother to mother, feeling the gratitude that they both had done an amazing job of raising their children.

I can only imagine what a gift that would be, to one day see your own children thrive as adults, and witness the beautiful lives they lead.

She told me how content, peaceful and joyful she felt.

The next weekend, while back at her home in upstate New York, she suffered a massive stroke, and on Monday, June 11th, she passed away.

I am still in shock, and even in tears, as I write this now.

My mind doesn’t quite comprehend how quickly someone you love so dearly can be here, enjoying life, and then be gone, in an instant.

But it happens. Every single day. Without warning.

Even though it’s only been a week now, and I am deeply saddened, Fran Cox is now helping me to live a more present life.

I hold on tighter to my children. I play with them longer, before saying, “I have to go make dinner.”

I sit in my backyard and listen to the birds. (She loved birds, and could name them all.)

I take more time to give thanks for my health, my home, my husband, my boys and the life I live.

I remind myself that today is a gift.

Because it’s really all we have.

And we have a choice, each and every day, how we spend our precious time + where we focus our attention.

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It may sound like a cliche, but it really is the truth. Today is a gift.

Connect more deeply.
Notice the abundance that surrounds you.
Give thanks more often.

And if my mother-in-law’s sudden passing can somehow teach me to live more fully, then I hope it can also be a gift to you. (more…)

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We All Feel Sad At Times: Ask For Help

At my sons’ elementary school this past week they put in a “Buddy Bench.” This is a bench that someone can go to if they feel lonely, left out, sad or depressed.

Others know that when someone is sitting on the bench, that they want to be asked to play, and the children are encouraged to invite whomever is sitting there to join them.

Not only does this teach compassion and empathy at a young age, but it also lets our youth know that it is okay to feel these feelings and let others know about it.

Gifting this Buddy Bench to our elementary school brought tears to my eyes, for the message of inclusion and hope it will now bring to those who are in pain.

It made me wish more adults had a Buddy Bench. (more…)

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How You Can Start Loving It All (Even If You Have The Post-Oscar Blues)

Did you watch the Oscars last night? No matter how it left you feeling, I’m hoping today’s post will uplift you.

Last night, my husband + I were invited to a black tie Oscar viewing party at The Hollywood Museum + I had the dream of wearing a gown from an amazing designer who creates handmade works of art.

Follow me here on instagram to see the pics.

And this morning, I’m back on the set, shooting another episode of a wonderful TV show I worked on last week + am feeling so grateful to do what I love, while also inspiring other actors along the way.

I want you to know that just 4 weeks ago, after having some great auditions and not really booking anything, I was feeling pretty down about how 2018 was going.

I wanted to feel better, but there were days, where I just couldn’t get out of my own funk + lift myself up. Can you relate?
Well, it got me thinking….

It seems we search for ways to feel good, and often run in fear of feeling anything less than what we deem as “positive emotions.”

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What if every emotion you feel throughout your day was here to awaken you?

And what if you could start loving it all?

We often spend our time judging, criticizing + labeling ourselves + our emotions + then adding to the story of what it all means.
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Where To Focus When Nothing Is Going On…..

When there are slow patches in your career, do you go down the dark rabbit hole of worry + self-doubt?

Do you start obsessing about how you did on your last audition or wondering if you’ll ever get another one?

I know. I’ve been there.

But, when you shift your focus from what is not working to what’s going right in your life, things will begin to shift in your favor.

This year started off kinda quiet for me (well, except all of my free trainings for actors!), and it would have been easy for me to start ranting + raving….

“What are my reps doing?”
“Where are my auditions?”
“What am I missing out on?”

But asking myself those questions only produces answers (and feelings) rooted in lack and fear.

So instead, I focused all of my energy on helping other actors (like you) succeed, while getting into a mental head-space of radical appreciation for what was working in my life.

Why would this matter?

Within the next week, I ended up getting 3 amazing auditions, including a request to read for a different role on a project I had already been in for late last year.

(Something I didn’t even know would come back around, and could have easily spent a lot of wasted time examining what I might have not done “right” at that initial audition.)

And then, a wonderful booking came in (which I can’t give details about yet) and an invitation to attend a red carpet Oscar party.

And all from shifting my focus + how it made me feel when nothing was going on. That’s it.

Sounds simple, right? It Is, but many actors choose to take the struggling route of complaining + blaming + then berating themselves. Then they spend their days busying themselves with “doing more” from this space of lack.

What they don’t realize, is that it’s hamster wheel that just produces more of the same.

So, what if, no matter how things look right now, you told yourself this:

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Instead of spending anytime criticizing or berating myself today,

I marvel at all I’ve done + who I’ve become along the way.

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3 Steps To Take When You Feel Lost

Thirteen years ago, I was on the edge of a devastating breakup and day’s like Valentine’s Day would spark a sadness within me that would turn the rest of February into my least favorite month.

Especially since I had a timeline of how my life was going to go + clearly I was “off schedule,” since I was going to be married with kids by age 33.

When we feel lost in the woods and we can’t seem to find our way, it’s easy to think thinks will never change.

Time definitely gives you perspective, and as I look back now, this is what I wish I knew….

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Love wherever you are in your journey and know that it is all leading you to the light.

Because ultimately, life had even better plans for me.

And interestingly enough, it was after spending a year where I focused on giving myself everything I thought I needed a relationship to give to me, that an old friend (who I did a film with 10 years prior) came along and changed my life. (more…)

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