Have you ever had a day knock you to your knees, shock you or scare the heck out of you? I had one of these days last week.
No matter where you get to in your career, there will always be someone else farther along.
The competitive mind loves to compare and despair. Your ego will convince you that if you just had: a better agent, more credits, a bigger role, more lines, a nomination, or a trophy from the Academy that you would be happier.
When jealousy moves into your mind, it often brings with it a few close cousins, namely fear + doubt. All of this mental gymnastics is really an illusion, albeit very convincing , to keep you believing that you are separate. The more you allow jealousy to lead your thoughts, the deeper you are rooting yourself in a state of lack, and of course, none of it feels good.
It is the creative mind, not the competitive mind, that connects you to your true power, abundance + worthiness.
So, what to do when jealousy strikes? Make this your priority:
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It’s not: Why didn’t I get a callback? Why didn’t I book that other job? Why aren’t I further along?
Quite the contrary.
Unconditional self-love is accepting whatever is going on within you without trying to change it, alter it, make it go away or tell yourself “I shouldn’t be feeling this way.”
When you are about to beat yourself up for __________ (insert your favorite reason here: not being further along, not being more positive, not booking the job etc.) you are putting a condition on how much you choose to love yourself in this moment.
The #1 Question To Ask To Transform Your LIfe + Acting Career: (more…)
Every step you take on the path to your next big goal will undoubtedly be a journey of self-discovery.
I love this idea that those of us on this path will need to accept that we can go further than we think.
I believe there’s a seed of greatness in all of us and it has been my mission to help as many actors + artists find it, nurture it + watch it grow.
So often that seed gets covered in dirt from our past wounds, buried by disappointment or regret and untended to because life’s demands somehow get in the way.
When we don’t nurture our desire or know how to allow them to grow, it will eat away at us.
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So many exciting possibilities lie ahead for you as the New Year begins. A clean slate, a blank page + a new chapter is ready to be filled in by you.
As you read this, I will be riding rides with my family at Disneyland AND it actually happens to be part of success plan for 2015.
Why? Because this act of spending time with my sweet 3 + 6 year old boys, and wonderful husband are part of what brings me great joy.
Many people are focused on all they are going to DO this year. List of goals, list of tasks, list of changes they want to make.
But in the midst of your goal-planning, what if you asked yourself how you most want to FEEL this year + allowed that to be your standard of success?
The holiday season can bring up a lot of emotions.
So often, we get preoccupied with our long to-do lists + family obligations, that before we know it, we feel overwhelmed, run-down or even get sick.
The radio may tell us “it’s the most wonderful time of the year,” but when we have sadness, anger, frustration or other emotions that we don’t take the time to express, experience and move through to completion, they tend to get stuck in the body.
Years ago, I faced debilitating back pain after a snowboarding incident. When the pain kept recurring, a friend gave me a book that changed my life.
In his fascinating book, Healing Back Pain, Dr. Sarno talks about the mind’s effort to repress emotions. According to Dr. Sarno, the mind tricks you into not facing repressed emotions by making you focus on pain in the body.
In other words, most humans would rather tend to their physical pain than deal with their emotional pain. That made sense to me, as I was spending most of my time + energy tending to my physical condition.
Once I allowed myself to release the emotional pain that I had been suppressing at that time, there was no need for the physical pain, and it literally disappeared overnight. I was amazed.
Now, whenever I begin to feel sick or feel stress mounting in my body, I always try to do some emotional release work. (This doesn’t discount seeing a doctor when you have acute or chronic pain)
During the fast-paced holiday season, I thought it would be a good time to remind ourselves what people really want….
Isn’t that what we all want? Real connection. To really feel heard. To be appreciated + acknowledged?
It costs you nothing + is exactly what everyone you will come in contact with this holiday season wants from you… (more…)
I had the most perfect day last Friday.
I walked my kindergartener to school.
Took my 3 year-old to my awesome workout: The Dailey Method.
Showered + blew my hair dry (a rarity)
Played with my 3 year-old in our backyard + ate hunch together.
Took him to his little gym class where I now have to stay “outside the glass” to watch him. (We used to do mommy + me, but those days pass fast!).
Had the baby-sitter come (who would be picking up my kindergartner since my husband was on an overnite surf trip.)
Did a quick VO job from my home studio.
Drove to Raliegh Studios for a fitting for a great role I booked on Castle.
Had time to write in my trailer while waiting for a photoshoot for this character.
Got home by 9 p.m. to a quiet house, where my kids were happily sound asleep.
Although I usually love putting them to bed, since I had spent quality time this morning with them, I didn’t feel an ounce of mom guilt.
I’ve learned that I can have it all, but I just can’t do it all. I have to have to allow + ask for help.
I also realized, that this was such a perfect day because:
No matter how high you climb in your acting career…there will always be someone further along.
So often actors tend to compare “up” to others who have more success which only makes them feel “less than.”
This is your ego’s way of keeping your competitive mind active.
But when you shift from the mind that compares to the mind that creates, you will shift how you feel about yourself, as well as the abundance that shows up for you.
You are a divine being having a human experience. When you spend your time wishing you were further along, had more credits, were prettier, younger or whatever other thought your inner critic distracts you with, you actually cut off your own creativity in this moment. You deplete all of your power.
It would seem as if “the industry” is doing it, but it is actually coming from your own projection of thought from your competitive mind that believes the supply of roles + opportunities is somehow limited.
When you can literally state “I accept myself. I accept my life + my career exactly as they are right now,” + mean it, you raise your self-worth and you begin to realize, there really is no competition.
Then you give yourself the gift of accepting this moment exactly as it is, or another way to explain (more…)
Labor Day in the United States is a holiday that marks the end of summer for many, but it was originally intended to celebrate the working class in the late 1800’s.
I’m sure anyone who was alive back then would be amazed to see how we can now connect with someone on the other side of the planet at the speed of light.
My 3 year-old squeals with delight at the sight of the Netflix logo on my iPad, knowing he can connect with Mickey Mouse in seconds.
Even I squealed with delight the first time I saw actors connecting with my work from India, South Africa, Australia and other countries around the world.
And yet, how connected are we with what is right in front of us?
All of this fast-paced technology in the palm of our hand can get addicting + distracting if we don’t know how to take a real break from “virtually connecting” to really connect.