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Are You Attached To Your Struggle Story?

Are you attached to your struggle story?

Do you tell yourself certain things every day about how things aren’t going for you?

Are these stories leaving you feeling stressed out, rushed, agitated, overwhelmed or frustrated?

I have definitely been there and understand if you feel this way.

But it wasn’t until I realized that, at the root of it all, there was a story I was telling myself that was causing all of my distress.

For a long time, my struggle story was, “I don’t have enough time.”

Being a working actress, a CEO, a wife and a mother with two young boys, I often felt like there wasn’t enough time in the day for all I had to do.

I used to have clocks in every room of my house (even the kids’ rooms), because I always needed to know the time.

Everything I did revolved around a schedule. Even reading to them at bedtime had to have a time limit.

One day, a feng shui expert came over and asked why I had clocks in the kids’ rooms.

I sheepishly told her, because I go back to doing my work after they go to sleep, and I need to make sure I have enough time.

She pointed out that this story was not only making me less present with my kids, but that it wasn’t helping anyone (especially me) relax.

As scary as it was for me, I decided to remove the clocks and change my story.

I started telling myself:
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Want better results? Do this…

The more I look back on the manifestations I’ve had in my life, whether it has been in my acting career, building relationships, creating abundance or even getting married and having a family, there has been a through line, a pattern, that has helped me over and over again.

That is one of ease, flow and letting go.

Whenever I tried to “white knuckle” the Universe into giving me what I wanted when I wanted it, I was not only acting from my ego, but ultimately creating more resistance on my own path. (This took me years to understand, so hopefully I’m giving you a shortcut here.)

I now know, I don’t have to do it all alone.

I am supported by something bigger than myself, and when I surrender to that power (whatever you wish to call it)  I am always guided to a higher plane.

It has been through this deeper awareness through mindful meditation (or guided meditation, which has been easier for me), that I have come to know + trust that there has been a divine order to my life and how it is unfolding.

When I am carefree, and flexible with what is (or isn’t) showing up, I am signaling the Universe to co-create for my highest good.

The same is true for you.

Deepak Chopra explains that when you create ease + flow within, “you are then no longer bound by the ego’s insecurities + cravings.”

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“The more detached you are from the results, the better the results.” – Deepak Chopra. 

It’s not that we have to let go or lose sight of our desires or our intentions, but when we let go of our ego’s timelines (more…)

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What To Do When Fear Stops You

Have you been allowing fear to stop you from taking action lately?

Do you convince yourself that it’s too late, that you’re not ready or that you don’t know where to begin?

Guess what? That’s just your ego’s way of trying to keep you safe + in your comfort zone.

When you align with your true self, you access a power within you that can overcome any fear.

When you seek this alignment first, taking action becomes easier. (Most people just keep taking more action without adjusting their thoughts).

To manifest your desires, you need to engage in both high vibration thought and action.
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One Secret To Booking More Work

I’m keeping it short + sweet today, as I’m about to head to San Jose for my first ever Tony Robbins Live Event! Woohoo!

Yep, I’m gonna be walking on coals, dancing in the aisles, and gathering more inspiration + insights to share with you all!

It’s something I’ve wanted to do for years, but never made the time.

I booked the tickets months ago (yep, to leave smack in the middle of pilot season), and even invited my best gal pal to join me.

Not only did I end up booking a great top-of-show-recurring-guest-star gig…but I was able to shoot 2 episodes in the last 2 weeks and just found out that I have this coming week OFF!

I spoke up and gave the production office my out of town dates, but also told them I was willing to move things around a bit, if need be.

(Secretly, I was hoping I didn’t have to cancel on Tony Robbins.)

I kept holding the vision of my friend and I in San Jose, while also feeling immense gratitude for this wonderful job.

And, well, it all worked out.

So, what’s on your joy + fun list these days?

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Is there something you are putting off because you don’t want to miss out on an acting opportunity?

Here’s one secret to booking more:

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How You Can Start Loving It All (Even If You Have The Post-Oscar Blues)

Did you watch the Oscars last night? No matter how it left you feeling, I’m hoping today’s post will uplift you.

Last night, my husband + I were invited to a black tie Oscar viewing party at The Hollywood Museum + I had the dream of wearing a gown from an amazing designer who creates handmade works of art.

Follow me here on instagram to see the pics.

And this morning, I’m back on the set, shooting another episode of a wonderful TV show I worked on last week + am feeling so grateful to do what I love, while also inspiring other actors along the way.

I want you to know that just 4 weeks ago, after having some great auditions and not really booking anything, I was feeling pretty down about how 2018 was going.

I wanted to feel better, but there were days, where I just couldn’t get out of my own funk + lift myself up. Can you relate?
Well, it got me thinking….

It seems we search for ways to feel good, and often run in fear of feeling anything less than what we deem as “positive emotions.”

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What if every emotion you feel throughout your day was here to awaken you?

And what if you could start loving it all?

We often spend our time judging, criticizing + labeling ourselves + our emotions + then adding to the story of what it all means.
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Where To Focus When Nothing Is Going On…..

When there are slow patches in your career, do you go down the dark rabbit hole of worry + self-doubt?

Do you start obsessing about how you did on your last audition or wondering if you’ll ever get another one?

I know. I’ve been there.

But, when you shift your focus from what is not working to what’s going right in your life, things will begin to shift in your favor.

This year started off kinda quiet for me (well, except all of my free trainings for actors!), and it would have been easy for me to start ranting + raving….

“What are my reps doing?”
“Where are my auditions?”
“What am I missing out on?”

But asking myself those questions only produces answers (and feelings) rooted in lack and fear.

So instead, I focused all of my energy on helping other actors (like you) succeed, while getting into a mental head-space of radical appreciation for what was working in my life.

Why would this matter?

Within the next week, I ended up getting 3 amazing auditions, including a request to read for a different role on a project I had already been in for late last year.

(Something I didn’t even know would come back around, and could have easily spent a lot of wasted time examining what I might have not done “right” at that initial audition.)

And then, a wonderful booking came in (which I can’t give details about yet) and an invitation to attend a red carpet Oscar party.

And all from shifting my focus + how it made me feel when nothing was going on. That’s it.

Sounds simple, right? It Is, but many actors choose to take the struggling route of complaining + blaming + then berating themselves. Then they spend their days busying themselves with “doing more” from this space of lack.

What they don’t realize, is that it’s hamster wheel that just produces more of the same.

So, what if, no matter how things look right now, you told yourself this:

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Instead of spending anytime criticizing or berating myself today,

I marvel at all I’ve done + who I’ve become along the way.

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3 Steps To Take When You Feel Lost

Thirteen years ago, I was on the edge of a devastating breakup and day’s like Valentine’s Day would spark a sadness within me that would turn the rest of February into my least favorite month.

Especially since I had a timeline of how my life was going to go + clearly I was “off schedule,” since I was going to be married with kids by age 33.

When we feel lost in the woods and we can’t seem to find our way, it’s easy to think thinks will never change.

Time definitely gives you perspective, and as I look back now, this is what I wish I knew….

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Love wherever you are in your journey and know that it is all leading you to the light.

Because ultimately, life had even better plans for me.

And interestingly enough, it was after spending a year where I focused on giving myself everything I thought I needed a relationship to give to me, that an old friend (who I did a film with 10 years prior) came along and changed my life. (more…)

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How To Deal With Uncomfortable Feelings

What do most of us do when we don’t want to deal with uncomfortable feelings?

We suppress them. We run from them. We distract ourselves. We check email. Check Facebook. Check Instagram. Check Twitter. Check Facebook Again. We scroll + comment. We rant + rave. We get more frustrated.

Or we distract ourselves in other ways. Some use eating, smoking, drinking. gambling, shopping, blaming, or shaming, all in a massive effort to not feel.

It’s a vicious cycle that may bring instant or temporary relief, but will never provide any long term gain.

Why? All of these activities get us to check out + tune out from what’s really going on.

What if, this week, instead of tuning out to what’s bothering you, you tuned in?

Instead of running from fear or sadness, or trying to suppress shame or disappointment, what if you embraced it + allowed it to be heard.

Here’s what you would d discover….

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11 Reasons You Feel Stuck (And How To Set Yourself Free)

When you are feeling down, stuck or frustrated, usually one (or more) of the following is going on within you…

  1. You’re apologizing for yourself + where you are in your career.
  2. You’re needing some external condition to make you happy.
  3. You’re forgetting that saying thank you in advance is a powerful choice.
  4. You’re in your head, allowing worry + doubt to rule your day.
  5. You’re waiting for fear to subside, before you take action.
  6. You’re trying to do everything perfectly, which keeps you procrastinating.
  7. You’re beaten down by rejection + letting it define you.
  8. You’re unaware of your true self + your inner greatness.
  9. You’re focusing on why it might not be possible for you.
  10. You’re needing things to change to feel good.
  11. You’re allowing your current reality to dictate your mood.

Do you notice a trend here?

You’re apologizing, needing, forgetting, waiting, trying, beaten down and unaware.

The good news is that by simply becoming aware of what you’re doing + how it’s making you feel, you can reclaim your power + start feeling unstoppable.

I know that some days are harder than others to get unstuck, so I here are 11 declarations to help you.

This is my “Credo For Feeling Unstoppable.”

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Print it out.  Make it your screensaver.  Recite it every morning. (more…)

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The Real Cause of Your Frustration (And How to Find Relief)

We all do it.

When we are frustrated with our acting careers, we want find someone or something to blame.

So, you tend to blame…

  • Your representation
  • Your lack of auditions
  • Your lack of callbacks
  • Your age
  • Your credits
  • Your ethnicity
  • Your weight/looks
  • Your connections
  • Your mate/spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend
  • The casting director who didn’t smile when she/he called your name
  • The execs who didn’t look up when you walked into the room
  • The girl/guy who went in before you that books everything
  • The reader
  • The traffic
  • The weather

But what if whatever you are blaming on this list for your frustration, wasn’t the cause of it at all?

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Isn’t that interesting to realize? “While we think that our circumstances are the cause of our frustration, the real source lies in our being unaware of our higher self. ” – Pir Vilayat

So maybe now the question becomes, what exactly is my higher self, and how the heck do I become aware of this…self?

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