Ever find yourself feeling elated, excited + enthusiastic about life and then the next week find yourself feeling disappointed, sad or just crying in a heap?
This was me for the first 2 weeks of May…riding high and then feeling really low.
The highs are easy, right?
But, when the low point came, I found myself saying things like “You know that feeling bad isn’t helping. You have a great life. Snap out of it. What’s your problem?”
Then, I finally allowed myself to just not feel good, to lay on the couch with my dog and simply sob for all kinds of reasons and for no reason at all (while telling him he has it all figured out – after all, “dog” is “god” backwards + that’s gotta mean something!)
I allowed myself to embrace the situation as it was, to feel whatever it was I was feeling without telling myself I should feel better or that I should be doing something else (something other than sobbing with my dog while my sweet husband offered his support.)
And ya know what? I highly recommend it.
What I came to discover is that the way “out” of those disappointing, frustrating + sad moments is to go fully through them.
The best way to handle it all is to allow yourself to come unhinged + give yourself permission to not have to “get it together” on demand.
When you go into an audition, share your vulnerability, give it everything you’ve got + don’t get the part, it can be disappointing
When you put your heart and soul into it + think that one audition is the key to the kingdom and you don’t get it, it can be devastating.
You may think, “That was my big shot. I missed my boat. That was gonna change everything.”
And then what happens? When we are faced with this kind of rejection over and over, our ego focuses too critically on all the ways we have lost. Judging ourselves as wrong, or bad, or not good enough, which can leave us feeling disappointed, dejected and sometimes hopeless.
Your ego may try to convince you that you need to change something or fix something about you to be more “right” the next time (and it’s not to say we can’t learn from each experience, because there is always space for that), but best-selling author + psychologist Dr. Robert Holden says…
Isn’t that powerful? “No amount of self-improvement can make up for a lack of self-acceptance.”
So the real learning, in order to release rejection and let go of disappointment, comes from (more…)
On the heels of the USA’s 4th of July holiday, I feel so lucky to live, as our “Star Spangled Banner” song lyrics states: “in the land of the free + the home of the brave.”
I’ve been thinking alot about these two words lately, and what it means to be free + brave.
These two powerful words seem to also apply to being an actor. This career path lends itself to having a free schedule, one that changes daily that can leave you with either to much free time or feeling a deep sense of freedom, joy + creativity, depending on how self-motivated you are + what you do to stay inspired + growing. Then, to put yourself out there, day after day + face rejection of all kinds, definitely makes pursuing an acting career a brave choice. How free + brave do you feel?
Well, in the audition room, the more free + brave you can be, the more likely you are to be remembered, called back + hired for the job.
When you are concerned about what everyone else thinks, odds are your actions won’t be coming from a place of feeling free + brave. Once you let that go, you will find more peace + creativity in your life + your acting work.
As C+ C Music Factory says: “Free your mind + the rest will follow.”
Here are 5 Ways To Be Free + Brave In Every Audition(more…)
When I watch my 2 toddlers run around in our backyard, I am reminded of our innate sense of play.
They so purely embody that feeling of having fun, not caring who is watching + not bothered by what others are doing.
What if you reclaimed the “I Am Here To Play” perspective this week? What if you walked into every audition thinking:
As actors, that is usually why we pursued this path – to creatively play for a living. It’s easy to lose that sense of play when you start giving every audition a lot of meaning + importance.
And even though you have rent or a mortgage to pay, getting back to playing in the audition room will help you succeed every time. (more…)
When you are at an audition and you are attached to getting the job or getting a callback, what happens? Your body tenses, your mind tells you it’s not possible and you begin an inner struggle that broadcasts as desperate or needy.
Here are 4 steps to releasing your attachment to the outcome.(more…)
It can happen to any actor—you feel like you are doing everything right, but you are still not booking the job. It’s easy to over-analyze your actions, your wardrobe, your choices, your hair, your age, or your talent. This kind of thinking can lead you to endless frustration.
If you feel that you are being a professional, showing up on time, being prepared, doing your best in the audition room, but just not booking, then it might be time to shift things internally. (more…)
I'VE TURNED A SLOW STREAK INTO A BOOKING STREAK AND I FEEL REALLY EMPOWERED.
"Wendy is so generous with her knowledge and understanding of the deeper, inside work that goes into living a healthy, happy, well balanced actor life. Her daily inspirations mean so much to me...and I'm grateful for the custom guided meditation she wrote for me. I've turned a slow streak into a booking streak & I feel really empowered."
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I BOOKED TWO ACTING GIGS IN THE SAME WEEK BECAUSE I HAD HER CD ON REPEAT!
"I listen to Wendy's guided meditations pretty much every chance I get. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have her amazing voice in my ear keeping me empowered, inspired + in the right mental space to persevere day in and day out. I booked two acting gigs in the same week because I had Wendy's Creating Powerful Auditions album on repeat. Thank you WENDY for your positivity + light!"
I BOOKED THE JOB! LISTENING TO CREATING POWERFUL AUDITIONS MADE A DIFFERENCE!
"Been listening to your "Creating Powerful Auditions" mp3 daily since purchasing about a week ago. Listened to it on the way to an audition...took a few moments before leaving my car to do the visualizations. I walked into the audition room feeling totally empowered, feeling light. I booked the job. I feel your album made a difference. Thank you, Wendy."
YOUR CREATION IS...VERY POWERFUL, IT CALMED ME, PREPARED ME & FOCUSED ME + I BOOKED JOBS.
"Since I began using your guided meditations I have now, in only a few months, booked up an entire year of work. Your creation is truly a blessing + very powerful. Before every audition I have done recently I have listened to at least 3 of your tracks and it has calmed me, prepared me and focused me."
SINCE LISTENING TO YOUR GUIDED MEDITATIONS, I BOOKED 2 FEATURE FILMS
"I bought Creating Powerful Auditions and I listen to it every morning. "Empowering Myself" is my absolute favorite meditation, sometimes I put it on repeat until I fully and truly feel every declaration. Since I've been listening to your guided meditations I booked my first feature film + also recently booked the lead role in my first horror film. Thank you for coming into my life!”
YOUR AFFIRMATIONS ALLOWED ME TO STEP OUT OF THE FEAR AND BE PRESENT IN THE ROOM.
"I just returned from an audition after listening to your guided meditations. Your affirmations allowed me to step out of the fear and be present in the room. As I waited for my audition I envisioned the session being successful and feeling empowered afterward. And it was and I did."