Thirteen years ago, I was on the edge of a devastating breakup and days like Valentine’s Day would spark a sadness within me that would turn the rest of February into my least favorite month.
Especially since I had a timeline of how my life was going to go + clearly I was “off schedule,” since I was going to be married with kids by age 33.
When we feel lost in the woods and we can’t seem to find our way, it’s easy to think thinks will never change.
Time definitely gives you perspective, and as I look back now, this is what I wish I knew….
Because ultimately, life had even better plans for me.
And interestingly enough, it was after spending a year where I focused on giving myself everything I thought I needed a relationship to give to me, that an old friend (who I did a film with 10 years prior) came along and changed my life.
Today, I’m so thankful to be standing here as the wife of this wonderful man and the mother of these 2 amazing boys, on the edge of the life I was meant to have.
So, whether you have a family or you just got over a devastating breakup, whether you have auditions today or haven’t booked a job in months, whether you have 2 credits on your resume or 20, I hope you find a way to love + appreciate where you are on your journey today.
And in those dark times where you feel lost, try giving yourself what you are wishing a booking or a relationship would come along and give you.
How do you do that?
HERE ARE 3 STEPS TO TAKE WHEN YOU FEEL LOST:
1) DEFINE THE FEELING
Ask this question: “What is the feeling I want to experience from having _________? “ (fill in what you think is missing (a booking, a boyfriend, a perfect body etc)
This helps you define what it is you’re searching for: love, validation, recognition, appreciation, acceptance etc.
2) DECLARE WHAT YOU WILL DO TO CREATE THIS FEELING
Instead of needing a thing or a person or a circumstance to change the way you feel, you’ll take your power back by finding a way to give yourself this feeling now.
Ask this question: “What will I do today to give myself the love, validation, recognition, appreciation or acceptance I am searching for?”
3) COMMIT TO TAKING ACTION
Now, commit to doing whatever you need to create that feeling, whether it’s an act of self-care, going to a great workout class, or listening to a guided meditation, do something to help you create the feeling you are after.
Imagine showing up at your next audition (or your next date) already feeling loved, validated, recognized, appreciated + accepted just as you are. You will light up in a whole different way.
Remember, that no matter where you are in the woods, know it is all leading you to the light.
The secret is knowing that what you’re searching for is already within you.
Leave a comment below + let me know what feeling you are after + what you are going to do today to create this feeling within you?
Here’s to a week of tuning into the light.
Love + Gratitude,