Whether you’ve been part of this amazing community for years, or are just joining me, I wanted to share a deeply personal story with you today.
Everything we go through in our childhood affects who we become, and as I was thinking about “why I do this,” why do I help to uplift + empower actors to create major breakthroughs in their careers and their personal lives, well, it all begins with my story of how I grew up…
When I was growing up, I was deeply ashamed of my childhood home.
My mother, though she was amazing in so many ways + supportive of my creative endeavors, was also a compulsive hoarder.
Click the video below, as I reveal what I learned from growing up with shame, anxiety + around mental illness.
And if you prefer to read the story as I tell it, here is the rest of the transcript that begins above… (more…)
I know we’re all trying to find some balance these days, whether you’re juggling parenting, kids being back in school, self-taping, your acting career, your day job, finding a new day job or just finding your sanity lately.
I want to share some insights I have picked up along the way from my (now over a decade) journey as a parent, an actress and a working mom…so you can apply these lessons to your own life.
(And if you’re not a parent, you can swap “my kids” and add in “myself,” so essentially you’re parenting yourself).
It’s definitely been a rollercoaster ride, but I wouldn’t change it for anything. Along the way, I’ve learned to celebrate progress over perfection as well as these insights. Enjoy!
15 Lessons I’ve Learned On My Journey Juggling Career + Family
1. When I show my kids what it looks like to dream big, they learn that anything is possible.
2. When I show my kids what it looks like to fail + get back up again, they learn to not be afraid to try new things.
3. When I show my kids what it looks like to be sad or disappointed, they learn that it’s okay to express themselves.
4. When I show my kids what it looks like to cry, they learn that all emotions are energy in motion + meant to be felt.
5. When I show my kids what it looks like to be a mother, an actress, a wife, an entrepreneur, they learn that they, too, don’t only have to be just one thing.
6. When I show my kids what it looks like to do your best + still not get the job, they learn what resilience looks like.
7. When I show my kids what it looks like to want something + have it not work out immediately the way you want it, they learn what patience + perseverance looks like.
8. When I show my kids what it looks like to take care of myself, they learn to value their own well-being.
9. When I show my kids what it looks like to pursue excellence, they learn to raise the bar for themselves.
10. When I show my kids what it looks like to put the phone down, be present, spend time, to truly listen to what they have to say, they learn that they are valuable.
11. When I show my kids what it looks like to be scared, uncertain or fearful, but to take risks anyway, they learn to embrace the adventure of life.
12. When I show my kids what it looks like to find joy in helping others, they learn compassion.
13. When I show my kids what it looks like to find the beauty in nature, they learn that abundance abounds.
14. When I show my kids what it looks like to find the good in the toughest of situations, they learn the power of a positive mindset.
15. When I show my kids what it looks like to be kind to those who are different than you, they learn empathy.
We all want the best for our kids, but it’s in showing them that it’s okay to fail, to be disappointed, to risk, to get hurt, to get rejected, to fall down, but to also always get up every single time, that we ultimately teach them to rise.
It’s funny, as I put this list together, I also realize that my kids have really been my best teachers.
I hope this helps you find some balance today with all you’re doing, embrace the rollercoaster ride, and also know that you can absolutely juggle both career and family.
Let me know in the comments below, which lesson spoke to you most today.
I’m sharing a quick video tip today to help you rock your self-tapes + stand out from the competition.
I know a lot of actors are frustrated after doing self-tapes for over a year now and are still telling themselves, “I’m so much better in the room.”
I get it that you might miss the connection, the interaction and the feedback of an in-person audition, but the thought of “I’m so much better in the room” is not serving you in any way when you’re about to do a self-tape.
In today’s quick video, I share how you can flip the script immediately and what to say instead to empower yourself instantly.
So much has changed in our industry (and the world) in the last 18 months. I know there’s a lot of people out there suggesting you do all kinds of things to “be a successful working actor.”
I’m so happy that you found your way to me, and that you’re here in my community, learning from someone who has worked consistently for the last 2 decades in TV, Film, Commercials + Voiceover, AND someone who has also been back on set, shooting a hit TV series – right now in this climate.
Yep, that’s me! Back for my 4th season on Netflix’ Atypical.
And what I love as much as working on a hit show, is sharing all of my best secrets with you!
I’m giving you instant access to a powerful free training (that actors have called “game-changing”) so you can prepare like a pro:
If you’ve been questioning your self-tape submissions (especially when you do great work and hear nothing) or you’re secretly wondering how you’ll deliver your best work on the job in this new environment, I got you.
You’ll learn empowering methods + easy-to-implement tools that have helped countless actors (at every level + in every market) book more work in TV, Film, VO, Commercials, Theater. (yes, even in a global pandemic).
You’ll walk away feeling encouraged + confident in your ability to navigate the road ahead, deliver your best auditions + bring your best self to the job. (Even when everyone around you is stressed out).
Been going from feeling good one moment to feeling agitated the next? I’ve had those moments too lately.
Been starting the day feeling overwhelmed, check the news and then start feeling worse?
Been noticing other actors thriving during this time + wondering “when will it be my turn?”
I want you to know: You are not alone.
This past year and half has been an emotional roller coaster ride, like no other.
As I go through my own ups and downs, I continue to seek new answers to new questions and I’ve been blown away at what shows up in the stillness of this process.
I know we all want things to change so we can start feeling better, but I also know that real manifestation begins within. (even during times of extreme uncertainty)
We’ve been conditioned that seeking external circumstances (and even material things) will somehow make us feel bliss.
We spend our days, months + years striving to get somewhere, in the hopes that when we arrive at our “destination,” we will somehow feel better.
We put off our happiness to the elusive, “One day when this happens, I will feel amazing…” kind of thinking and we spend our lives chasing a dream of happiness that somehow still, no matter what we obtain or achieve, continues to elude us.
Mainly because we didn’t learn (or perhaps we forgot along the way), that the key to creating something is to embody the emotions ahead of time.
Not waiting for the manifestation to bring the feeling, but to create the feeling within now. That’s the inner work. (And most people are going about it backwards).
Imagine feeling the bliss you’re seeking…today. (We’re actors, so using our imagination to feel is something we all know how to do for a role, but now it’s time to be diligent about doing this in your daily life.)
And when you do, not only do you shift your state of being, but your world shifts to match the feeling.
SINCE LISTENING TO YOUR GUIDED MEDITATIONS, I BOOKED 2 FEATURE FILMS
"I bought Creating Powerful Auditions and I listen to it every morning. "Empowering Myself" is my absolute favorite meditation, sometimes I put it on repeat until I fully and truly feel every declaration. Since I've been listening to your guided meditations I booked my first feature film + also recently booked the lead role in my first horror film. Thank you for coming into my life!”
I BOOKED TWO ACTING GIGS IN THE SAME WEEK BECAUSE I HAD HER CD ON REPEAT!
"I listen to Wendy's guided meditations pretty much every chance I get. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have her amazing voice in my ear keeping me empowered, inspired + in the right mental space to persevere day in and day out. I booked two acting gigs in the same week because I had Wendy's Creating Powerful Auditions album on repeat. Thank you WENDY for your positivity + light!"
I BOOKED THE JOB! LISTENING TO CREATING POWERFUL AUDITIONS MADE A DIFFERENCE!
"Been listening to your "Creating Powerful Auditions" mp3 daily since purchasing about a week ago. Listened to it on the way to an audition...took a few moments before leaving my car to do the visualizations. I walked into the audition room feeling totally empowered, feeling light. I booked the job. I feel your album made a difference. Thank you, Wendy."
I'VE TURNED A SLOW STREAK INTO A BOOKING STREAK AND I FEEL REALLY EMPOWERED.
"Wendy is so generous with her knowledge and understanding of the deeper, inside work that goes into living a healthy, happy, well balanced actor life. Her daily inspirations mean so much to me...and I'm grateful for the custom guided meditation she wrote for me. I've turned a slow streak into a booking streak & I feel really empowered."
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YOUR AFFIRMATIONS ALLOWED ME TO STEP OUT OF THE FEAR AND BE PRESENT IN THE ROOM.
"I just returned from an audition after listening to your guided meditations. Your affirmations allowed me to step out of the fear and be present in the room. As I waited for my audition I envisioned the session being successful and feeling empowered afterward. And it was and I did."