I know we’re all trying to find some balance these days, whether you’re juggling parenting, kids being back in school, self-taping, your acting career, your day job, finding a new day job or just finding your sanity lately.
I want to share some insights I have picked up along the way from my (now over a decade) journey as a parent, an actress and a working mom…so you can apply these lessons to your own life.
(And if you’re not a parent, you can swap “my kids” and add in “myself,” so essentially you’re parenting yourself).
It’s definitely been a rollercoaster ride, but I wouldn’t change it for anything. Along the way, I’ve learned to celebrate progress over perfection as well as these insights. Enjoy!
15 Lessons I’ve Learned On My Journey Juggling Career + Family
1. When I show my kids what it looks like to dream big, they learn that anything is possible.
2. When I show my kids what it looks like to fail + get back up again, they learn to not be afraid to try new things.
3. When I show my kids what it looks like to be sad or disappointed, they learn that it’s okay to express themselves.
4. When I show my kids what it looks like to cry, they learn that all emotions are energy in motion + meant to be felt.
5. When I show my kids what it looks like to be a mother, an actress, a wife, an entrepreneur, they learn that they, too, don’t only have to be just one thing.
6. When I show my kids what it looks like to do your best + still not get the job, they learn what resilience looks like.
7. When I show my kids what it looks like to want something + have it not work out immediately the way you want it, they learn what patience + perseverance looks like.
8. When I show my kids what it looks like to take care of myself, they learn to value their own well-being.
9. When I show my kids what it looks like to pursue excellence, they learn to raise the bar for themselves.
10. When I show my kids what it looks like to put the phone down, be present, spend time, to truly listen to what they have to say, they learn that they are valuable.
11. When I show my kids what it looks like to be scared, uncertain or fearful, but to take risks anyway, they learn to embrace the adventure of life.
12. When I show my kids what it looks like to find joy in helping others, they learn compassion.
13. When I show my kids what it looks like to find the beauty in nature, they learn that abundance abounds.
14. When I show my kids what it looks like to find the good in the toughest of situations, they learn the power of a positive mindset.
15. When I show my kids what it looks like to be kind to those who are different than you, they learn empathy.
We all want the best for our kids, but it’s in showing them that it’s okay to fail, to be disappointed, to risk, to get hurt, to get rejected, to fall down, but to also always get up every single time, that we ultimately teach them to rise.
It’s funny, as I put this list together, I also realize that my kids have really been my best teachers.
I hope this helps you find some balance today with all you’re doing, embrace the rollercoaster ride, and also know that you can absolutely juggle both career and family.
Let me know in the comments below, which lesson spoke to you most today.
So much has changed in our industry (and the world) in the last 18 months. I know there’s a lot of people out there suggesting you do all kinds of things to “be a successful working actor.”
I’m so happy that you found your way to me, and that you’re here in my community, learning from someone who has worked consistently for the last 2 decades in TV, Film, Commercials + Voiceover, AND someone who has also been back on set, shooting a hit TV series – right now in this climate.
Yep, that’s me! Back for my 4th season on Netflix’ Atypical.
And what I love as much as working on a hit show, is sharing all of my best secrets with you!
I’m giving you instant access to a powerful free training (that actors have called “game-changing”) so you can prepare like a pro:
If you’ve been questioning your self-tape submissions (especially when you do great work and hear nothing) or you’re secretly wondering how you’ll deliver your best work on the job in this new environment, I got you.
You’ll learn empowering methods + easy-to-implement tools that have helped countless actors (at every level + in every market) book more work in TV, Film, VO, Commercials, Theater. (yes, even in a global pandemic).
You’ll walk away feeling encouraged + confident in your ability to navigate the road ahead, deliver your best auditions + bring your best self to the job. (Even when everyone around you is stressed out).
Many actors are starting this week feeling overwhelmed, frustrated + not knowing where to begin to create the success they crave in 2021.
But if you were with me throughout The 5-Day Success Breakthrough Experience and my Free Masterclasses this past week, you are feeling lighter, clearer, empowered, focused, recharged and excited for the road ahead.
My heart is so full today, as thousands of actors from all over the world joined me in learning how to shed all kinds of limitations, fear, self doubt and now know the exact steps to take to begin their breakthrough year.
In fact, inside of 90 minutes, those who came to my Live Masterclass Encores this weekend shared these vulnerable moments with me….
HERE’S THE GOOD NEWS:
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I’ve spent the last 7 days watching brave + committed actors dive inward + take an honest look at what’s been stopping them from creating more success + happiness in their acting careers + their personal lives
Here’s what I want to share with you today – as we begin the 3rd week of 2021.
To radically transform your career, you must first radically transform your inner game.
Yes, it all begins, by looking within.
Why? Well, real transformation can’t happen without conscious awareness…
Yes. When I acknowledge + accept, I can transform.
For most actors, it’s way easier to spend the day/month/year blaming their agents, weight, looks, age, lack of connections or number of auditions for their lack of results.
Hope you had a fun + safe Halloween weekend. Personally, I’ve cried a few times this past week for all kinds of reasons. You too?
As you may know, I got choked up while sharing my very vulnerable story about growing up with shame, anxiety + around mental illness (and how it has all shaped the work I do with actors).Click here to watch the video.
I cried again reading your beautiful responses and how sharing my story helped you to realize not only are you not alone, but that it’s okay to share your vulnerability and your pain as well. In fact, your deepest pain can become your greatest gift, if you can face it, feel it and heal it. I hope you now know, we are all in this together.
Then, over the Halloween weekend, as I was folding 3 piles of laundry on the bed with my ever-supportive husband, while my children were bouncing off the walls from a candy-induced sugar rush, I broke down again.
Can I just say…tears are a breakthrough. So please, by all means, go ahead and cry your eyes out (especially if you’ve been holding it all in lately for whatever reason).
Ok, so in addition to feeling emotional about politics + pandemics, heck, I’ve had some great self-tapes lately, and I haven’t heard anything yet, and it all just got to me.
I know as actors, we each put our whole heart into what we do, and sometimes it’s hard to let it all go and be present in the moment. (Yes, I struggle with this too).
So I made this quick video to walk you through exactly what I do when I’m deeply frustrated (and how to release it in seconds). And whether you use my method this week to deal with politics, pandemics or post self-tape, I truly hope this helps you. (And you enjoy my Halloween makeup).
Click the video below to learn my 2 step process for post-selftape meltdown frustration. (I think you’ll love it!)
I hope this helps you to know that every actor goes through these kinds of moments.
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