If you watched the Oscars last night, and it left you feeling inspired + hopeful for the possibilities ahead for you – awesome.
But if you turned off the TV + went to bed wondering…
- Will it ever happen for me?
- What do I do to get to where I want to go?
- How will I ever achieve my biggest dreams?
Here’s what you need to know…
Yep, the only way to get to where you want to go (no matter where that is) is to first make peace with where you are.
So, if you woke up today feeling blue about your career, guess what? That’s okay, but here’s what I want you to know…
You simply added meaning to an event. You watched an awards show (an event) and made the fact that you aren’t there indicate that you have somehow failed as an actor (meaning). And now you feel horrible.
Here’s what that looks like:
The Oscars (event)
+ You have failed as an actor (meaning)
= You feel miserable (current outcome)
Instead, you can take the same event, The Oscars, add no meaning, and what would you have?
Just the event. The Oscars + no meaning = The Oscars. It’s simply an event. That’s it.
I’m hoping this realization helps you to make peace with wherever you are today, because, that really is the key to getting to where you want to go.
So make your intention this week to see how many events or experiences you can not add meaning to + notice how much more peaceful you feel. Experiences like the audition, the callback or the job you didn’t book.
Here’s to a week of making peace with where you are, while you add no meaning to certain events along the way.
Let me know in the comments below what event you plan on not adding meaning to? Can’t wait to hear.
Love + Gratitude,
28 thoughts on “What To Do If You Have The Post-Oscar Blues”
Whew, talk about shifting paradigms, thank you Wendy, the
post Oscar blues are gone. You are a gift to the world.
At first I was like Noooooo!!! But now I don’t give two fucks.” I’m in the right place at the right time, suppose I was there without doing any of this inner work or better yet not have any knowledge of this work. I’d be a terrible mess. Lots could go wrong.
YES! This is it exactly! And clearly the INNER WORK is important at every stage of this career. So glad you’re a Success Breakthrough Workshop student and now have so many tools to handle moments like this and all that’s ahead for you. Go Preston!
Thanks again Wendy for keeping me a part of your Monday inspiration! Well said! After all entertainment and a career as such – in the truest sense isn’t about receiving accolades – but more importantly about doing the work- providing a service of entertaining – diverting- as the definition of the word itself means…..although accolades are nice- and kinda sorta give added validation to what for what one has done- but in an ideal world or sense ought not to be the destination.Rather the journey itself ought to be the cause du celebre’!
in my poor French!
Not only did I not have the pre, present or post Oscar blues, but I’ve already done some research based on one of the animation pieces and learned some things about people producing animation. Then, I wrote an email to a friend of mine who writes on two animated shows and asked to set up a meeting with him. I’ve been collecting Stories for years about a particular subject and have been unclear as to what form I want the content to take. I have thought about doing a solo show, a series, a movie etc. recently I’ve been thinking about it in terms of an animated series or maybe an animated short movie. So instead of thinking for too long I followed the five second rule and sent out an email to somebody who I can have a great discussion with about my idea. Ps I felt that some of the actors speeches were sad and made me uncomfortable and some of the writing of the bits also made me uncomfortable – Believe me it’s not an ego thing like to put others down to pull myself up, not at all, that is not me. I suffer from very low self-esteem. But, instead I saw it as well I have ideas for content, let me pursue that. How CAN I? Or, why NOT me? Yaaaay!
Thanks Wendy, so glad I found you!
Great perspective! Thanks!
I never watch any award shows. In fact, I go out of my way to NOT watch them. If they choose to exclude me, I am happy to return the favor. I know I am a star who shines with their own light, regardless of whether the industry points a telescope at me.
Thanks much. Any further advice about how to “not attach meaning” (mantras etc) would be helpful. I never watch award shows; and often stupidly avoid watching films and tv shows. I tell myself it’s because I’m a parent and have no time. But really, its because I attach meaning (though I never verbalize it to myself) to every little thing, and let each little thing “remind” me and my body that I am a crap actor, not living up to my potential, letting parenthood be an excuse, or generally that I’m a shambles. Avoiding watching shows, and even theater, keeps me out of the loop. Which makes me feel further removed from living up to my potential as an actor. And each year I get older, I attach meaning to that, about how my potential is diminishing. I will try to remember it is my own attitude that creates this.
Glad this helped you recognize that. Looking at yourself through the eyes of love is the daily practice (easier some days than others for sure). One mantra that’s helped me throughout the years: “I trust in the divine timing of my life.” This allows you to be FULLY present as a parent, and not use “where you’re not” to shame yourself. Making peace with where you are will always lead you to more. And the journey will be more fun along the way. xoxo
Thank you, Wendy! This is just what I needed today! For the first time in a long time, I didn’t watch the Oscars, because I felt shitty about where I am in my career, and I didn’t want to be reminded of others’ success. After reading this blog, I realized that the “meaning” that I was attaching to the Oscars was that the actors featured there are the only worthy, the only successful actors, and I am excluded from that club. Totally not true! The Oscars are just an event! I have had lots of success in my career up to now, and I will continue to create success moving forward! I am worthy because I’m here! Thank you, Wendy! 💖💖
Way to shift it all and see yourself in this beautiful light! Indeed it is an inside joy and indeed you are worthy! Love it Louahn!
Moving. The outcome of whether my wife and I will end up together or not. I can’t control another person. I can only be honest with them and allow them that same space to do the same. I can surrender to what is and I can detach with love from the outcome. I’m entitled to my feelings but feelings are not facts. The uncertainty brings up hurts, fear and self flagellation, but this too shall pass. This doesn’t define me. There’s a bigger picture and God’s got a plan. I just don’t know what it is. But I will accept it and let it be. I will ask others for help and accept whatever help is given to me. God’s will not mine be done. Amen.
Glad this spoke to you. Sending you lots of love Quinton!
I got into acting at a very late age and am now almost the same age as Michelle Yeoh. If anything, this year’s Oscars has inspired me, not left me feeling like I’m lacking or a failure. I’m just setting out on my journey and hold great optimistic for the future. I don’t compare my journey to anyone else’s because each of our journeys is as unique as we are. Comparison can be so stultifying. Anything is possible when you believe it is and here is where the words of the very great actor Sir Anthony Hopkins ring true, ‘ Believe, believe, believe and you shall receive!’
Wonderful reflection. I agree with you, as an actor in the same age range. It was a good night for women of a certain age — Jamie Lee Curtis. And men too, I think!
Yes indeed! “Don’t let anyone tell you that you are past your prime!” – Michelle Yeoh
I’ve made my peace that this goal that I have of being an actor, voice actor, singer is a long term goal. What I mean is that I look at it as a marathon rather than a sprint. It’s going to take some time. It may not seem that I’m doing much but as long as I continue to take classes, hone in my skills and learn the business I will make it.
Amazing! What a wonderful journey to be on!
I plan on not adding meaning to not getting a role that I auditioned and had a callback for, as Wendy says “What is meant for me cannot pass me by.”
YES! That’s exactly right!
Thanks for all your wise words Wendy,
I was aware the Oscars were happening yesterday but I didn’t watch them -“ I trust in the divine timing of my life “is very grounding and makes me feel secure that where I am right now is OK and the universe is unfolding as it should for me..x
So glad this spoke to you. YES to all of this!
Ha- you got me at 7 am – it’s true the day after is the day a lot of us feel like chucking it all in and firing our team or just looking in the mirror and realizing I’ll never look like Jennifer Chastain or Halle Berry – after all they are screen sirens and I am a character actress – but you’re ABSOLUTELY on the money that if you can not attach meaning to the awards show and just actually enjoy it – it brings peace and serenity – so I made peace with where I am and the. Reset some personal goals for myself and I have decided that my OSCAR this year will be regaining my health- my wealth and my well being – and positive attitude – and take that to my career! I choose acting because I love it and I love watching others a oevelents also- and none of it precludes my ability- we all rose tighter! Thanks for giving us this sounding board this AM!!!! Xoxoxox
YESSSSSSSS! Amazing perspective shift and one that will bring you so much well-being, abundance and JOY!
Make peace with where I am right now, powerful!! The message for me is to stay in the moment and just know that I am going in the right direction. Since I started this course some new doors have opened for me and I really feel like it is exactly what I need right now. I am on the way to everything I desire and I know for sure I can get there from where I am now. Thanks for the inspiration Wendy!!
Thanks Wendy. REALLY. I was just checking my email over and over again to see if I received a callback from an audition I did last Thursday…the callback is tomorrow. Your small but powerful mind adjustment made me take a look at why I’m mindlessly checking and checking and feeling kinda low on the inside. I did a really good job on the audition. I know that most bookings I don’t book are not necessarily that I didn’t do a good job (my acting coach who shoots my self-tapes tell me when I do really well). What I need to do is add meaning to how well I did the audition and take meaning away from making the callback. I have a saying…”It’s a BOOK or a LOOK!” When I do a great audition and a director gets to see my work – either I get BOOKED or another director LOOKED at me. My time is coming…I really believe that. THANKS FOR YOUR PRACTICAL ENCOURAGEMENT, Wendy!! I REALLY NEEDED IT TODAY!!💖💖💖
I am pure love and light