What To Do If You Have The Post-Oscar Blues

What To Do If You Have The Post-Oscar Blues

If you watched the Oscars last night, and it left you feeling inspired + hopeful for the possibilities ahead for you – awesome.

But if you turned off the TV + went to bed wondering…

  • Will it ever happen for me?
  • What do I do to get to where I want to go?
  • How will I ever achieve my biggest dreams?

Here’s what you need to know…

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Yep, the only way to get to where you want to go (no matter where that is) is to first make peace with where you are.

So, if you woke up today feeling blue about your career, guess what?

You simply added meaning to an event.  You watched an awards show (an event) and made the fact that you aren’t there indicate that you have somehow failed as an actor (meaning).  And now you feel horrible.

Here’s what that looks like:

The Oscars (event)
+ You have failed as an actor (meaning)
= You feel miserable (current outcome)

Instead, you can take the same event, The Oscars, add no meaning, and what would you have?

Just the event.   The Oscars + no meaning = The Oscars.   It’s simply an event.   That’s it.

I’m hoping that realization helps you to make peace with wherever you are today, because, that really is the key to getting to where you want to go.

So make your intention this week to see how many events or experiences you can not add meaning to + notice how much more peaceful you feel.  Experiences like the audition, the callback or the job you didn’t book.

Here’s to a week of making peace with where you are, while you add no meaning to certain events along the way.

Let me know in the comments below what event you plan on not adding meaning to?  Can’t wait to hear.

Love + Gratitude,
Wendy

 



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12 thoughts on “What To Do If You Have The Post-Oscar Blues”

    1. At first I was like Noooooo!!! But now I don’t give two fucks.” I’m in the right place at the right time, suppose I was there without doing any of this inner work or better yet not have any knowledge of this work. I’d be a terrible mess. Lots could go wrong.

      1. YES! This is it exactly! And clearly the INNER WORK is important at every stage of this career. So glad you’re a Success Breakthrough Workshop student and now have so many tools to handle moments like this and all that’s ahead for you. Go Preston!

  1. Thanks again Wendy for keeping me a part of your Monday inspiration! Well said! After all entertainment and a career as such – in the truest sense isn’t about receiving accolades – but more importantly about doing the work- providing a service of entertaining – diverting- as the definition of the word itself means…..although accolades are nice- and kinda sorta give added validation to what for what one has done- but in an ideal world or sense ought not to be the destination.Rather the journey itself ought to be the cause du celebre’!
    in my poor French!
    Mark

  2. Not only did I not have the pre, present or post Oscar blues, but I’ve already done some research based on one of the animation pieces and learned some things about people producing animation. Then, I wrote an email to a friend of mine who writes on two animated shows and asked to set up a meeting with him. I’ve been collecting Stories for years about a particular subject and have been unclear as to what form I want the content to take. I have thought about doing a solo show, a series, a movie etc. recently I’ve been thinking about it in terms of an animated series or maybe an animated short movie. So instead of thinking for too long I followed the five second rule and sent out an email to somebody who I can have a great discussion with about my idea. Ps I felt that some of the actors speeches were sad and made me uncomfortable and some of the writing of the bits also made me uncomfortable – Believe me it’s not an ego thing like to put others down to pull myself up, not at all, that is not me. I suffer from very low self-esteem. But, instead I saw it as well I have ideas for content, let me pursue that. How CAN I? Or, why NOT me? Yaaaay!

  3. Laurel Kornfeld

    I never watch any award shows. In fact, I go out of my way to NOT watch them. If they choose to exclude me, I am happy to return the favor. I know I am a star who shines with their own light, regardless of whether the industry points a telescope at me.

  4. Thanks much. Any further advice about how to “not attach meaning” (mantras etc) would be helpful. I never watch award shows; and often stupidly avoid watching films and tv shows. I tell myself it’s because I’m a parent and have no time. But really, its because I attach meaning (though I never verbalize it to myself) to every little thing, and let each little thing “remind” me and my body that I am a crap actor, not living up to my potential, letting parenthood be an excuse, or generally that I’m a shambles. Avoiding watching shows, and even theater, keeps me out of the loop. Which makes me feel further removed from living up to my potential as an actor. And each year I get older, I attach meaning to that, about how my potential is diminishing. I will try to remember it is my own attitude that creates this.

    1. Glad this helped you recognize that. Looking at yourself through the eyes of love is the daily practice (easier some days than others for sure). One mantra that’s helped me throughout the years: “I trust in the divine timing of my life.” This allows you to be FULLY present as a parent, and not use “where you’re not” to shame yourself. Making peace with where you are will always lead you to more. And the journey will be more fun along the way. xoxo

  5. Thank you, Wendy! This is just what I needed today! For the first time in a long time, I didn’t watch the Oscars, because I felt shitty about where I am in my career, and I didn’t want to be reminded of others’ success. After reading this blog, I realized that the “meaning” that I was attaching to the Oscars was that the actors featured there are the only worthy, the only successful actors, and I am excluded from that club. Totally not true! The Oscars are just an event! I have had lots of success in my career up to now, and I will continue to create success moving forward! I am worthy because I’m here! Thank you, Wendy! 💖💖

    1. Way to shift it all and see yourself in this beautiful light! Indeed it is an inside joy and indeed you are worthy! Love it Louahn!

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