Did you watch the Oscars last night? How did it make you feel about your own acting career? Did watching it inspire you or depress you?
For the longest time, I couldn’t go to the movies without jumping on imdb.com when I got home, comparing myself to actors in the film.
Where did this always leave me? Feeling bad about my own success.
No matter what I had done, who I had worked with or the accolades I received for my work, it seemed there was always someone who was doing more or better and living a bigger and more fabulous life.
Then I finally realized, from my ego’s point of view…..it will always be that way!
The real question to ask yourself: Am I using another actor’s success to disconnect me from my own worth + value?
If you are condemning yourself for where you are, then you are out of alignment with your own greatness.
YOU are the one who is actually pushing away your own success.
Have you noticed that when you hear about a classmate, friend or acquaintance book a job, you sometimes end up feeling frustrated + defeated, that somehow their success means you are failing?
We’ve all been there. But I am here to tell you….
But. I actually DO think it’s important to allow yourself to feel the feelings that come up. That is the key to turning it all around.
If you find yourself feeling jealous, frustrated or angry, have your pity party, play your violin, feel depressed + then move on.
Slapping a smiley face sticker over your pain is like not cleaning a wound + then putting a band-aid over the dirt. It will just make your wound worse + linger longer.
Here are 4 steps to moving through difficult feelings + turning things around.
1) Acknowledge it.
2) Allow it.
3) Fully feel it.
4) Let it go.
Also know that…
” The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
When you take time to feel what we often label “negative’ feelings, it can give you the fire + desire to turn things around. Why rob yourself of that powerful launching-off position?
It’s when we STAY in that frame of mind, condemning ourselves for where we are over and over + never letting up, that it becomes toxic + keeps us stuck.
Know that when those around you are booking jobs like crazy, you are actually closer than you may think.
When you can celebrate another actor’s success, you are in alignment with your own.
Don’t push what is coming your way away by being bummed it’s not here yet.
Find a way to take action on the goals you’ve set for yourself. Follow up with someone you met, collect your work, write a thank you note, congratulate a colleague or a casting director on their Oscar nominated film. Do something that gets you into action + out of your head.
There’s a lot you can do to get closer to your dreams, but being mad at yourself for where you stand today isn’t one of them.
Here’s to YOU aligning with your inherent greatness + getting one step closer to holding an Oscar.
Love + Gratitude,~ Wendy Braun
Morning Mindset Meditation
Condemning yourself for where you are will never help you to get to where you want to be.
What if, just for today, I made where I am in my acting career, exactly where I needed to be?
What if I knew in my heart + truly believed I would get to where I want to go? How would I feel then?
If I feel the need to compare + despair, I give myself a few minutes, an hour or day to do so, + then I move on.
Wallowing in my own self-pity is not going to get me where I want to go + it feels bad, not because someone else seems “rurther along,” but because my highest self, knows that all is really well.
I take a deep breath in + connect with my highest self that knows that I am right on track.
I exhale + connect with my highest self that knows that I am going to get there in the perfect time + the prefect way.
The more excited I can be for another’s successes, the closer I am to my own.
I remind myself that this is an abundant Universe, and there is enough for all of us.
I remind myself that life is unfolding for me int the perfect order + I trust in it’s divine timing.
I take a moment now to look back at all of the things that worked out for me when I least expected it.
When I slow down my critical thoughts, I make room for new ideas + act on them.
The good always finds me. I align with my highest self today + know in my heart that I will get to where I want to go.
What would it take this week for me to know that when I choose to celebrate another actor’s success, that I am so much closer to my own?