What To Do When You Feel You’ve “Missed Your Boat”

When you go into an audition, share your vulnerability, give it everything you’ve got + don’t get the part, it can be disappointing

When you put your heart and soul into it + think that one audition is the key to the kingdom and you don’t get it, it can be devastating.

You may think, “That was my big shot. I missed my boat. That was gonna change everything.”

And then what happens? When we are faced with this kind of rejection over and over, our ego focuses too critically on all the ways we have lost. Judging ourselves as wrong, or bad, or not good enough, which can leave us feeling disappointed, dejected and sometimes hopeless.

Your ego may try to convince you that you need to change something or fix something about you to be more “right” the next time (and it’s not to say we can’t learn from each experience, because there is always space for that), but best-selling author + psychologist Dr. Robert Holden says…

Isn’t that powerful? “No amount of self-improvement can make up for a lack of self-acceptance.”

So the real learning, in order to release rejection and let go of disappointment, comes from first acknowledging that it’s there + the effect it’s having on our inner life.

This is often the important step that most people skip, since it’s a lot easier to stay busy in distraction mode than to slow down + sit + feel what might be painful feelings.

But the real pain lies in suppressing our emotions, and not tending to what’s really going on within us.

When you realize that it is in acknowledging and accepting all of your emotions, without trying to change them, that real transformation begins.

So this week, instead of incessantly checking your phone when things don’t go your way, try to simply sit + breath and acknowledge the feelings that are going on within you.

When you give them your undivided attention + accept them with loving kindness instead of trying to push them away or get rid of them, they will soften.

And remember, one audition does not make or break your career. I know it may feel that way at times, but it is not the case. You haven’t “missed your boat.”

So breathe, Acknowledge + Accept. Let it be heard. And let it go.

Here’s to releasing rejection + knowing that another ship is always coming in. And another. And another.

Leave a comment below and let me know what you do to release rejection.

Love + Gratitude,
– Wendy

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