Has scrolling through social media been bringing you down lately? Does this sound familiar?
Check social media before getting out of bed.
Scroll through Instagram, click on Instagram Stories, check Facebook, look at Twitter (telling yourself you just want to be updated on the news).
Brush your teeth. Make your bed. (Do you make your bed? It’s a good habit.)
Sit on the edge of your bed. Check the phone again.
This was me last week, all before 7am: Click on Jennifer Lopez’s (JLo) Instagram Stories feed.
Watch JLo talk to you from inside a private jet, then see a gorgeous picture of her on the set of her latest video, swipe up to watch the Dinero video, go back to IG stories, and watch as she tells you how to get the JLo glow and introduces you to her entire new makeup line, then see her on the red carpet in a gorgeous gown, then looking flawless at a magazine photo shoot for Emmy Magazine.
Go to your profile. Notice that you don’t have 75.3 million followers….or a makeup line.
Get dressed, look in the mirror, notice a new wrinkle, compare your skin (and career) to JLo’s + feel like you’ve done absolutely nothing with your life.
Notice how heavy all this mind-chatter feels…almost like lead. Try to motivate yourself to do something productive, while telling yourself you suck.
Yep, this was me last week. Fun! Can you relate? Don’t get me wrong. I actually love JLo. She is one ambitious hot mama and her work ethic is nothing short of (more…)
And this morning, I’m back on the set, shooting another episode of a wonderful TV show I worked on last week + am feeling so grateful to do what I love, while also inspiring other actors along the way.
I want you to know that just 4 weeks ago, after having some great auditions and not really booking anything, I was feeling pretty down about how 2018 was going.
I wanted to feel better, but there were days, where I just couldn’t get out of my own funk + lift myself up. Can you relate?
Well, it got me thinking….
It seems we search for ways to feel good, and often run in fear of feeling anything less than what we deem as “positive emotions.”
But what if feeling all emotions were positive? What if every emotion you feel throughout your day was here to awaken you? And what if you could start loving it all?
We often spend our time judging, criticizing + labeling ourselves + our emotions + then adding to the story of what it all means. What if, throughout your day, whatever thought or emotion was getting your attention, you could simply(more…)
When there are slow patches in your career, do you go down the dark rabbit hole of worry + self-doubt?
Do you start obsessing about how you did on your last audition or wondering if you’ll ever get another one?
I know. I’ve been there.
But, when you shift your focus from what is not working to what’s going right in your life, things will begin to shift in your favor.
This year started off kinda quiet for me (well, except all of my free trainings for actors!), and it would have been easy for me to start ranting + raving….
“What are my reps doing?” “Where are my auditions?” “What am I missing out on?”
But asking myself those questions only produces answers (and feelings) rooted in lack and fear.
So instead, I focused all of my energy on helping other actors (like you) succeed, while getting into a mental head-space of radical appreciation for what was working in my life.
Why would this matter?
Within the next week, I ended up getting 3 amazing auditions, including a request to read for a different role on a project I had already been in for late last year.
(Something I didn’t even know would come back around, and could have easily spent a lot of wasted time examining what I might have not done “right” at that initial audition.)
And then, a wonderful booking came in (which I can’t give details about yet) and an invitation to attend a red carpet Oscar party.
And all from shifting my focus + how it made me feel when nothing was going on. That’s it.
Sounds simple, right? It Is, but many actors choose to take the struggling route of complaining + blaming + then berating themselves. Then they spend their days busying themselves with “doing more” from this space of lack.
What they don’t realize, is that it’s hamster wheel that just produces more of the same.
So, what if, no matter how things look right now, you told yourself this:
Instead of spending anytime criticizing or berating myself today,
I marvel at all I’ve done + who I’ve become along the way.
Thirteen years ago, I was on the edge of a devastating breakup and day’s like Valentine’s Day would spark a sadness within me that would turn the rest of February into my least favorite month.
Especially since I had a timeline of how my life was going to go + clearly I was “off schedule,” since I was going to be married with kids by age 33.
When we feel lost in the woods and we can’t seem to find our way, it’s easy to think thinks will never change.
Time definitely gives you perspective, and as I look back now, this is what I wish I knew….
Love wherever you are in your journey and know that it is all leading you to the light.
Because ultimately, life had even better plans for me.
And interestingly enough, it was after spending a year where I focused on giving myself everything I thought I needed a relationship to give to me, that an old friend (who I did a film with 10 years prior) came along and changed my life. (more…)
You play many roles in your life + they are all meaningful and valuable. “Actor” is only one of those roles, just as “what you’ve done” in your career this year is only one facet of the multi-faceted diamond that is you.
So whether you print this out + tape it to your bathroom mirror or keep the graphic on your phone, allow it to serve as a loving guide to end the year knowing that not only are you enough exactly as you are right now, but that you are a precious gift.
Treat yourself this way as the year comes to a close + you will start the New Year off in the right direction.
Pause and read this anytime you feel your inner critic try to define you, judge you or criticize you…
Here’s to a holiday season where you fill yourself up first with (more…)
I know this time of year can get busy + stressful. So I’m keeping it short + sweet today.
If you find yourself cranky, irritable, sad, or overwhelmed by all you have to do (or all you feel you haven’t done yet), here is my Holiday De-Stress List.
You’ll be amazed at what picking one thing on this list will do for your mental + emotional state. Keep in mind, this isn’t about covering up your feelings with a happy face sticker, or stuffing down your emotions with extra slices of pie.
It’s about taking the time to slow down + actually feel your feelings: acknowledge them, release them + let them be heard. (more…)
In fact everything you want, is because you think you will be happier when you have it.
Whether it is a role, a relationship, a Range Rover, or a raving review of your work.
Deepak Chopra states,
”The purpose of life IS the expansion of happiness. Happiness is the goal of every other goal.”
And yet, throughout your day, do you ever notice how easy it is to pick things apart (including yourself), notice what’s not working, what you haven’t done yet + fixate on complaining about the big + even the little things?
I know I have.
So if our quest is to expand our happiness, why do we spend so much time feeling unhappy?
To understand ourselves, we have to become consciously aware of our thoughts, words, + habits. Then, we must learn how to shift them.
You might not even be aware that complaining has become your default mode of operation.
So what can you do to shift from finding fault to expanding your happiness?
The first step is to become more mindful.
The act of mindfulness will help train your subconscious mind to perceive + appreciate more of the amazing blessings, beauty + bounty that are in your life on a daily basis.
Here are 10 acts of mindfulness to get you started…. (more…)
You might not want to hear it, but complaining is a chronic habit that ultimately keeps you stuck.
Have you ever tried to go through your entire day + not make one complaint? It’s not easy, right?
You might not even be aware of how often you complain, because it’s become so habitual. For many of us, complaining has become our standard mode of operation.
We complain the audition is taking too long.
We complain about the traffic.
We complain about the line at the grocery store.
Then we get together with our friends and when they start to complain, we chime in easily + add to it, until everyone is bonding over a big-warm-complaint-bonfire. (And I can’t say I haven’t been there. I have.)
So, here’s one simple way to get unstuck.
Become mindful of how often you complain + stop yourself in your tracks.
In fact, this is my SPECIAL INVITATION to have you join me in making November a complaint free month.
How do you do it? Here are 4 steps to making November COMPLAINT FREE.(more…)
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