I got teary-eyed a few times these past few weeks.
As you may know, I got choked up while sharing my very vulnerable story about growing up with shame, anxiety + around mental illness (and how it has all shaped the work I do with actors). Click here to watch “I Grew Up Deeply Ashamed (And Other Reasons Why I Do This).“
I cried again reading your beautiful responses and how sharing my story helped you to realize not only are you not alone, but that it’s okay to share your vulnerability and your pain as well.
Your deepest pain can become your greatest gift,
if you can face it, feel it and heal it.
I hope you now know, we are all in this together.
Then, over the Halloween weekend, as I was folding 3 piles of laundry on the bed with my ever-supportive husband, while my children were bouncing off the walls from a candy-induced sugar rush, I broke down again.
Can I just say…tears are a breakthrough. So please, by all means, go ahead and cry your eyes out (especially if you’ve been holding it all in lately for whatever reason).
I’ve had some great self-tapes lately, and I haven’t heard anything yet, and it all just got to me. You too?
I know as actors, we each put our whole heart into what we do, and sometimes it’s hard to let it all go and be present in the moment. (Yes, I struggle with this too).
So I made this video to quickly walk you through exactly what I do when I’m deeply frustrated (and how to release it in seconds). And whether you use my method to deal with post-self-tape frustration or anything else that has been bothering you lately, I truly hope this helps you. (And you enjoy my Halloween makeup filter).
Click the video below to learn my 2 step process for post self-tape meltdown frustration. (I think you’ll love it!)
I hope this helps you to know that every actor goes through these kinds of moments.
I don’t care how many credits you have, how long you’ve been in this business, or what show you’re were on for 4 seasons (Thanks, Atypical!)… we all go through it.
We all want to keep working, and keep shining, and keep thriving in this business.
I want you to know that…
I don’t book every job I audition for. No one does.
No actor on the planet books every job. Period.
So I hope the next time you find yourself in tears because you put your whole heart into something + it didn’t pan out like you wanted…you’ll use this helpful 2-step process.
- Punch something. (Not someone).
I prefer the air or a pillow. Release the anger of what it feels like to do great work + hear nothing.
- Return to love. (Sooner than later)
Return to why you’re doing this, what you do love about being an actor and how you can love yourself even more in the process.
Then also remember that there is divine timing in it all, and what is meant for you cannot pass you by. But first, have a good cry, punch a pillow, and then return to love.
Let me know in the comments below what you do when you get frustrated about it all?
We really are all in this together.
Love + Gratitude,
P.S. I hope you are making your mental health a priority. This creative warrior path is a roller coaster ride, and I love offering tools, support and guidance to enhance your well-being and help you thrive in your life and career. Enjoy “Easing Anxiety + Improving Well-Being” as my free gift to you.