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Why Alignment (Then Action) Is The Key To Your Success

Happy July! Can you believe the year is half over?

No matter what you have or haven’t “done” so far this year, I want you to know one thing…

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There is nothing outside of your ability to accomplish it, but when you force yourself to take action from a place of lack-minded thinking, your efforts will often provide lackluster results.

There is so much more power available to you, when you choose to align your mind first, and then take action from this newly inspired place (and all that procrastinating ends!)

But how do you do this? (more…)

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The Real Key To True Happiness

I’ve been pausing more lately, without distraction from devices.

I’ve been listening to birds sing in my backyard, marveling at the freckles on my children’s faces and enjoying mindful moments where I deeply and sincerely appreciate my life.

And it seems the more I do this, the happier I become and the more unexpected wonderful surprises start to show up. (In the form of auditions, helpful people + exciting offers).

So, just for today, give yourself the gift of a mindful moment. How?
Put the phone down.
Go outside.
Take in the scenery.
Love yourself, right where you are.
Just for today, let go of needing anything to be different.
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Let go of striving and pushing to change where you are. (more…)

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Today Is A Gift

Two weeks ago, my in-laws came to town from New York for a wonderful visit. It was idyllic, actually.

We ate brunch at Paradise Cove and relaxed on the beach in Malibu, while they enjoyed watching our kids surf.

We had long + lovely outdoor dinner conversations in our backyard, as the kids laughed and played in the pool.

They sat in our soothing spa, soaked up the sun while napping on the lounge chairs, and then took the kids to Toys R Us for a special shopping spree – grandparent style.

My mother-in-law said so many times what a perfect weekend it was, and thanked me for the blessing I have been in her son’s life.

She even told me that she looked at a picture of my own late mother on our bookshelf, and thanked her for bringing me into the world.

I know it was a soul to soul moment, where they connected, mother to mother, feeling the gratitude that they both had done an amazing job of raising their children.

I can only imagine what a gift that would be, to one day see your own children thrive as adults, and witness the beautiful lives they lead.

She told me how content, peaceful and joyful she felt.

The next weekend, while back at her home in upstate New York, she suffered a massive stroke, and on Monday, June 11th, she passed away.

I am still in shock, and even in tears, as I write this now.

My mind doesn’t quite comprehend how quickly someone you love so dearly can be here, enjoying life, and then be gone, in an instant.

But it happens. Every single day. Without warning.

Even though it’s only been a week now, and I am deeply saddened, Fran Cox is now helping me to live a more present life.

I hold on tighter to my children. I play with them longer, before saying, “I have to go make dinner.”

I sit in my backyard and listen to the birds. (She loved birds, and could name them all.)

I take more time to give thanks for my health, my home, my husband, my boys and the life I live.

I remind myself that today is a gift.

Because it’s really all we have.

And we have a choice, each and every day, how we spend our precious time + where we focus our attention.

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It may sound like a cliche, but it really is the truth. Today is a gift.

Connect more deeply.
Notice the abundance that surrounds you.
Give thanks more often.

And if my mother-in-law’s sudden passing can somehow teach me to live more fully, then I hope it can also be a gift to you. (more…)

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We All Feel Sad At Times: Ask For Help

At my sons’ elementary school this past week they put in a “Buddy Bench.” This is a bench that someone can go to if they feel lonely, left out, sad or depressed.

Others know that when someone is sitting on the bench, that they want to be asked to play, and the children are encouraged to invite whomever is sitting there to join them.

Not only does this teach compassion and empathy at a young age, but it also lets our youth know that it is okay to feel these feelings and let others know about it.

Gifting this Buddy Bench to our elementary school brought tears to my eyes, for the message of inclusion and hope it will now bring to those who are in pain.

It made me wish more adults had a Buddy Bench. (more…)

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3 Steps To Recover From Social Media Stress

Has scrolling through social media been bringing you down lately? Does this sound familiar?

Check social media before getting out of bed.

Scroll through Instagram, click on Instagram Stories, check Facebook, look at Twitter (telling yourself you just want to be updated on the news).

Brush your teeth. Make your bed. (Do you make your bed? It’s a good habit.)

Sit on the edge of your bed. Check the phone again.

This was me last week, all before 7am: Click on Jennifer Lopez’s (JLo) Instagram Stories feed.

Watch JLo talk to you from inside a private jet, then see a gorgeous picture of her on the set of her latest video, swipe up to watch the Dinero video, go back to IG stories, and watch as she tells you how to get the JLo glow and introduces you to her entire new makeup line, then see her on the red carpet in a gorgeous gown, then looking flawless at a magazine photo shoot for Emmy Magazine.

Go to your profile. Notice that you don’t have 75.3 million followers….or a makeup line.

Get dressed, look in the mirror, notice a new wrinkle, compare your skin (and career) to JLo’s + feel like you’ve done absolutely nothing with your life.

Notice how heavy all this mind-chatter feels…almost like lead. Try to motivate yourself to do something productive, while telling yourself you suck.

Yep, this was me last week. Fun! Can you relate?
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Don’t get me wrong. I actually love JLo. She is one ambitious hot mama and her work ethic is nothing short of (more…)

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Gratitude For Our Freedom

Happy Memorial Day!  In the United States, we celebrate this holiday to remember the sacrifices that brave men + woman made to bring freedom to this country.

Growing up as the daughter of a Navy veteran, I was taught to have immense gratitude for the freedoms that we so easily take for granted.

My late father was a World War II Air-Sea Rescue pilot who helped to save those who were shot down in the Pacific Ocean. He was a hero to many, and especially to me. I lost him when I was 27.

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When I volunteer in my son’s first grade class, I can barely get through The Pledge Of Allegiance without tearing up.

Seeing a group of 6-year-olds embody joy, love and freedom, so purely, gives me hope for our future.

And my hope always seems to comes back to (more…)

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Why You Need To Take A (Guilt-Free) Break

Last week, I had an actress in my private Spotlight Club community admit that she was struggling with stress and feeling a little burnt out.

She was ready for a break and wanted to take a day to herself, but was feeling really guilty about it. Ever been there?

Do you ever tell yourself these things:

If I’m not working 24/7 on my career, then success won’t come to me.
If I’m not putting in a lot of extra effort, then I don’t deserve success.
If I take a break, it feels like I’m just being lazy.

Do you realize, that these are all just false beliefs that you’ve been telling yourself?

When your mind, body + soul are asking for a break, that is because (more…)

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The #1 Thing That Keeps You From What You Want

The thing that keeps you from what you want (is not your agent, the casting director, or other actors in the waiting room at your audition, etc.) but it is actually something that you can control: Your thoughts.

Sometimes we know that we should be talking to ourselves more lovingly, but we just can’t find the words.

Other times we’re so ingrained in old habits of negative self-talk, that we literally don’t know what self-compassion even sounds like or where to begin?

Today I’m offering up 9 mindful mantras for returning to love.

Adopt any (and all) that feel good to you this week as a way of practicing loving self-acceptance by choosing better thoughts.

You may just find that beginning here, with the thoughts you think and the things you tell yourself, make it easier to start seeing your life (and your career) through the lens of love.

Or as the late great Wayne Dyer stated, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

So become aware of what you say to yourself today, and in each present moment, practice returning to love.

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How To Stop Shoulding On Yourself

Have you spent most of 2018 condemning where you are?

It’s okay. I’ve been there. In fact, I spent most of my 20’s + early 30’s in “never enough mode.”

Yep. No matter what I was doing, (even when I shooting 26 commercials a year as a campaign spokesperson, or shooting great guest-star roles on TV), it was still never enough.

And when I wasn’t working, that “never enough” noise got even louder. Like screaming in my ear, loud.

Maybe you can relate? Maybe you’re “shoulding” on yourself right now?

It sounds kind of like this:

I should be further along by now.
I should have booked a pilot by now.
I should have been a series regular by now.
I should have been in major feature films by now.
I should have a boyfriend/girlfriend by now.
I should be married by now.
I should have had kids by now.
And on, and on.

As I look back, I realize how much time I actually wasted “shoulding” all over myself.

Those “should” statements always come from a place of fear, and are always driven by the ego-mind.

The ego loves making you feel like what you are doing is never enough. And these days, add a few scrolls through social media to the mix, and you might just be in full meltdown mode.

And guess what? It never ends, unless you take control of your inner life + create a new daily practice that empowers you.
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